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Driving the k ids to Amador

Original post made by soon to be amador parent, Vintage Hills, on Jan 26, 2010

I have a daughter going to amador in the fall and am thinking whether I should drive her, have her take the bus, or heaven help me, join a car pool. Yes I plan way ahead. If you have experience with the drop off/pick up there can you fill me in?

is it worse/same/better than PMS which for some reason no traffic rules apply between 3pm and 3:30pm daily. probably so since teenagers are driving at Amador.

Do parents still drop off/pick up or is that way uncool at that age?

is it true that all the kids have their own BMWs? If so I should start saving, maybe sell off some (all) my stuff.


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Posted by westsider
a resident of Foothill High School
on Jan 26, 2010 at 9:23 pm

Have you considered letting her walk to school? Healthier for her, more convenient for you, maybe even better for the environment! Just a thought. Good luck.

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Posted by FWIW
a resident of Foothill High School
on Jan 26, 2010 at 11:08 pm

I'm just trying to figure out whether this is a real inquiry or a backhanded "fishing" attempt. If the former, I apologize. Something about the interesting question: "is it true that all the kids have their own BMWs? If so I should start saving, maybe sell off some (all) my stuff." makes me question whether this is someone trying to be all cutesy, pointing out the ridiculous ethic of some in town (not my family) that bows to the BMW/sportiest-rag-top convertible/huge-honkin' uplifted truck culture/give your kid the fastest-shiniest-most expensive car for their 16th birthday...

In any case, no, not all parents do that, nor should you start saving for that day, for your-soon-but-not-so-soon-to-be-freshman unless that culture is really, really precious to you.

Yes, a lot of kids DO walk to school. And YES, it's even MORE COOL for parents to drop Foothill freshmen off (in this rather ridiculous culture that we're feeding into) rather than having/making the kids walk to school themselves. The coolest thing for freshmen is to have (MAKE) their parents wait until the last possible minute, fixing their hair or gathering up their backpack, then having the parents race to school in incredibly-backed-up-traffic to drop them off just in time for the bell, causing the parents to have mini-conniptions every day, while the kids play it oh-so-cool and waltz in just as the final bell is ringing.

If you can possibly avoid it, don't play this game. Make them take the bus, bike, walk, carpool to school with friends. Even if you are a stay-at-home mom or dad, don't enable it. Of course, if there is no bus service from your neighborhood, you work, you don't have any friends(!) and a possible carpool, and it's too far for your freshman to bike, then yes, give them a ride.

Just saying, it's not something that you *need* to buy into.

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Posted by Pleasanton Parent
a resident of Pleasanton Meadows
on Jan 27, 2010 at 12:05 am

You're a parent. It doesn't matter what is cool or what is uncool. You make the rules not your 15 yr old.

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Posted by Amador Mom
a resident of Mohr Park
on Jan 27, 2010 at 9:42 am

The traffic is crazy so if your daughter has friends riding the bus, I'd try that first. Second choice is definately a carpool.

I think Vintage Hills is too far to walk (for a 9th grade girl) - sorry non-enablers - she'll get distracted downtown with her friends and never get home to do homework or other activities. And she won't be driving for a while - Soph or Jr year.

Best pick up area is across the street behind the bus stop - not in the parking lots. Takes forever to get out.

They are right about us deciding how it's going to go though. Not our kids.

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Posted by momoftwo
a resident of Pleasanton Heights
on Jan 27, 2010 at 3:56 pm

I am on my second go-round with a student at Amador. Here's my two-cents worth. Don't even try to be Cool - do what works best for your family. Best scenario: organize a carpool in your neighborhood with an established leaving time "at x:xx we leave with or without you"...the peer pressure makes them get ready in time (usually). Second, drive to, but not home from school (if it's walkable). This insures that you know they did indeed arrive, and at what time. Walking home can be a nice transition from school to home...sometimes the decompression time is a wonderful thing, and Vintage Hills is not too far, really. HAVE THEM TAKE THE BUS with some friends at the beginning of the school year a few times, so that they KNOW HOW and have some bus passes (from Safeway or Raleys) in the backpack always! This can be really helpful in a pinch. The traffic, worse than PMS, is a nightmare any way you approach it, but best case is to drop off in back loop, off of Del Valle, and pick up in the church parking lot, off of Del Valle. Many days the church even hands out drinks for the kids. The Santa Rita side front loop or the bus stop or the student parking lot are only for the certifiably insane. Take a deep breath and and large gulp of patience. Good luck, its a fun short ride thru high school, so enjoy it! ..and no, only a few have the BWM/monster truck ...she's yanking yr chain!
PS..Believe less than half of what you up often...get involved...they are with few exceptions, a GREAT group of kids!

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Posted by soon to be amador parent
a resident of Vintage Hills
on Jan 27, 2010 at 5:49 pm

Cudos to all for your great advice and alternatives. That was a joke about the BMW but nonetheless the question was genuine about how to get the kids to highschool. thank you thank you all I'm going to work the bus into the solution for sure.

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