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Are you in denial as to what your teenager is 'really' doing?

Original post made by anonymous, Amador Valley High School, on Jul 25, 2007

I am so disappointed in one fact, and that is the fact that most parents do not want to take responsibility for 'what is going on' by telling their kids that they will (and then actually do it) randomly read their myspace pages. I am one of those parents who do, and I have tried to talk to other parents to tell them that their kids are in serious need of more 'boundaries', and less privacy.These parents chose not to listen, and now these kids have criminal records. Guess what? It is all over myspace! Parents seem to think that it is cool to be able to 'allow' their kids to have myspace accounts, and not know what in the world they are doing on these accounts. Parents.... I challenge you to sit down with your teen TODAY, tell them that you would like to go through their myspace with them, because you love them and want to help them to become the person they should be. Guaranteed, you have NO idea what is going on in Pleasanton, and once you do, you will understand why we ALL need to monitor our kids MUCH better than we are. I thought I knew my kids...until myspace came along. Signed, A very concerned, yet aware parent.

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Posted by Parent
a resident of Foothill High School
on Jul 26, 2007 at 11:21 am

I agree with this. Check your kids MySpace accounts. Check their text messaging or AIM too.

Drugs are a huge problem in Pleasanton right now and there is no denying it. Cocaine is the drug of choice for the high school/college crowd and it is everywhere your kids go. Pot and alocohol are even easier to get.

Should you be worried? You bet you should!

Posted by Resident
a resident of Val Vista
on Jul 26, 2007 at 3:48 pm

As a high school teacher, I can confidently say, I agree! You would not believe what these kids put on their pages... It is insane how trusting and clueless they can be...

Posted by R
a resident of Amador Valley High School
on Aug 20, 2007 at 6:36 pm

Why are you blaming myspace? I think parenting your children goes well beyond myspace. This whole "blame myspace" is another fact of not accepting your own consequences for not parenting your children in the first place. I'm a 26 year old male that grew up in Pleasanton. I was a teenage, obvisouly and still have much to learn, but "things" were going on a long time before myspace. I think parents of Pleasanton have this mentality that "bad" will never happen here; it already has. Drugs have been in this community for a long time and have been a part of high schoolers lives. I would see students coming into class stoned or drunk (better yet high on Meth) many times at Amador and teachers were clueless. Might I add, again, that this was before myspace. Countless parties I went to were full of kids "dropping" ecstasy or acid. I never did any of things, thanks to my parents having a REAL talk with me about making choices. Today, it is more simple for kids to get what they want. To sit down and just talk to your kids about myspace is silly. "The Talk" needs to go a bit deeper, outside of the techonology that is avaialable today. To simply talk about and blame myspace, especially for a criminal record, is just ignoring the main issue at hand. If myspace wasn't around, teens would still find a physical place to make irresoponsible choices. Don't blame computers (espcially since there are website blockers). Do your work as a parent and talk to your kids. Get involved in their life that is some place outside of the dinner time table.

Posted by M
a resident of Las Positas
on Sep 24, 2007 at 12:20 pm

Thank you are so much for saying what you did. most parents need to stop worrying about other parents kids and worry about your own!! you may think you children are angels but its high school kids to do dumb things. you only live once! Myspace is not to blame, and if your kids are stuiped enough to put on there page what drugs to do and such ur kids are not to bright.

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