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"You Gotta Have Balls [to do counseling] . . .

. . . It's really scary, taking a look at yourself." A man said this to me yesterday while asking for my help. It is scary, it does take balls (or the female...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Aug. 16, 2019
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Premarital and Couples: Permanent Record

We had dinner with our friends recently and learned that their son kept a "Permanent Record" of things his parents had done wrong during his childhood...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Aug. 30, 2019
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In Honor of Ralph

It was my privilege to present at The Compassionate Friends National Conference: "Thriving as a Couple After Your Child Dies." I'll share with you a bit...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Sep. 6, 2019
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Premarital: Women Over 50 Do Get Married

Wedding Bells After Fifty by Autumn Marie is a read I recommend. There's a myth that women over 50 won't get married, and this book is out to dispel that....

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Sep. 13, 2019
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Three Top Thoughts on Letting Go and Moving On

You Can’t Make Yourself Let Go or Move On--So Be Kind to Yourself      While it’s uncomfortable, you need to let yourself feel...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Sep. 26, 2019
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Couples Counseling, Al Pacino Style

I had the pleasure of listening to Pete Pearson of the Couple's Institute in Menlo Park talk about the importance of working as a team in couple's counseling....

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Nov. 8, 2019
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The Four Stages of Competency*

I like to talk with my clients about the The Four Stages of Competency because it provides a simple structure for understanding where we are in therapy, personally...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Nov. 22, 2019
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Living as Roommates? Not Having Much Sex?

I see couples who eventually realize they are living as roommates: they may be good parents together, run their household together, do their respective jobs, spend...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Dec. 6, 2019
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Premarital and Couples: What feeling is not allowed, and what do you use in its place?

What feeling do you not allow yourself to have, either because it is intolerable to you, your family didn't allow it, or it's just too scary or painful to have?...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Dec. 13, 2019
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Premarital and Couples: Road Trips and Getaways

I was recently sent research indicating that a weekend away is the number one romantic gift that both men and women want. David Skernick is a photographer (this...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Dec. 20, 2019
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Premarital and Couples: Do You Give or Receive "Still Face"?

What is Still Face? Watch this short video by Dr. Ed Tronick (director of UMass Boston's Infant-Parent Mental Health...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Jan. 3, 2020
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Premarital and Couples: Thankful / Grateful / Appreciation

Those of you who are my clients already know that I encourage you to be thankful and appreciative, even for the small things that you expect your partner to do,...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Jan. 10, 2020
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You Can Help: Scents and Migraines

Most people have no idea that scents such as perfume, cologne, essential oils, after shave, deodorant, scented detergents and dryer products, household cleaners,...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Jan. 24, 2020
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Premarital and Couples: Are We the Only Couple Having Problems?

No, you are not. Despite how other couples look to you, you are definitely not the only one having problems. In the same way that you don't want anyone to know...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Jan. 31, 2020
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Couples and Premarital : "Who we are . . . depends in part . . . on who we love."

One of my favorite books is "A General Theory of Love." Lewis, Amini and Lannon write poetically about love research, and they talk about limbic resonance,...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Feb. 13, 2020
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Premarital and Couples: Here Be Dragons!

I wrote about the The Four Stages of Competency, that begins with the Unconscious Incompetent, perhaps also known as our unconscious. Jung referred to it as our...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Feb. 21, 2020
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Premarital and Couples: Are Female Orgasms the Key to Inner Hunger in Women?

While watching a video about gratitude on TED, I stumbled across a video of Nicole Daedone's talk about the inner "hunger" in women; truly a cry for connection...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Feb. 28, 2020
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Top 6 Reasons to do Online Top 6 Reasons to do Online (Video) and/or Phone Therapy

Top 6 Reasons to do Online Therapy 1. Concerns about Coronavirus or other health reasons; have your sessions as a couple or individual from your home or office. 2. Responsibilit...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Mar. 6, 2020
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Premarital and Couples: Are you Kinder to Strangers than to Your Partner?

Is there a grain of truth to the statement "I am kinder to a stranger than I am to my partner/spouse?" If so, consider these questions: How did I get here? How...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on May. 29, 2020
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Union. Unity. E Pluribus Unum (Out of Many, One)

I’ve been trying to figure out what to write this week given what’s going on with the state of our nation, racism, and people’s treatment of one...

Original post made by Chandrama Anderson on Jun. 5, 2020
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