By Chandrama Anderson
Couple's Tone and Body LanguageUploaded: Jul 7, 2014
Last time I wrote about observing couples' communication through tone and body language. I want to clarify that we can not assume what is going on from what we see.
She could be using the tone because she believes she can't get his attention any other way by this time. She could use the tone because that's how her parents communicated. She could be using the tone because she has a hearing problem. She could be using the tone because she is exasperated with him . . . or . . . ?
He could be throwing up in his hands in defeat. He could be throwing up his hands to say, "Enough!" He could be throwing up his hands to wrest control or power in the conversation. He could be throwing up his hands because that's how his parents communicated.
We can't look from the outside and know what is going on, or what their story is.
What we can do is continue to obverse our own tone and body language; when we're out in public, and once we get home.
Ask yourself: Is this how I want to treat my beloved? If so, do more of it. If not, devise experiments and try a calmer or different tone, quieter or greater body language.
See/notice/hear how it goes.