By Chandrama Anderson
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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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Be the Gift that your Partner gets to Open Every Day
Uploaded: May 14, 2023
In Addition to Mother’s Day and Father’s Day . . .
I propose that everyday is wife/husband/significant other day. No, it doesn’t mean you have to buy a gift or flowers, or go out to dinner to celebrate each other every day. And yes, it does mean that you find ways that fit the two of you to celebrate each other every day.
You are with the person you chose. So choose her/him again everyday. Be the gift that your partner gets to open every day. See your partner as the gift you have the joy and luxury to open every day. By keeping this simple mindset, that you are the most precious, valuable, loving and lovable person to each other, you will actually behave as though you are. And soon enough, you will be.
Did I say ‘Every day”? I did. I meant to.
Please share how you celebrate one another.
What is it worth to you?
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