By Chandrama Anderson
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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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My husband (who turns 60 at the end of May) and I had decided over a year ago that we'd take a trip to celebrate our 60th birthdays. We were going to go to . . . Italy! But somehow we never got around to booking our trip. Then Corona Virus started, but we didn't realize the impact it would end up having so we booked a week in Hawaii. That's of course been cancelled.
Now I'm hoping for Dungeness Crab and crusty bread for dinner :) My husband made a lovely breakfast for me. We walked our pup dog. My friends and family are calling and texting for my 60th.
Meanwhile everyone is struggling in different ways. My best friend has cancer. The doctors are in the diagnostic phase so they can create a treatment plan for her. Another friend has hyperthyroid and is really sick with it.
Meanwhile roses are blooming and smell so sweet. The air is fresh with so few cars on the road. The stars are much more visible than I've seen them here for years. Colors are bright. I've met (with physical distance) so many neighbors that I hadn't before. Pain and suffering/Beauty and love.
My birthday wish is one I know all of you share. An end soon to this pandemic. Being able to be with our loved ones again in person (I miss my son and his fiance fiercely). For economic recovery. For a healed planet.
I know some (many?) of you are feeling weary of being in shelter. I give thanks for having shelter. Figure out what you can do for one person today to make their day better/brighter.