It got me to thinking about couples, and how we want things from one another. Do you turn away and ask? Do you turn away and not ask? Do you hope to get what you want without asking or noticing your partner’s response to you? If so, what might be driving you to behave in these ways?
When you don’t feel connected (fighting, little sex, lack of communication, living like roommates etc.), you may miss opportunities to connect, and end up feeling less connected. And so a downward spiral continues.
What if you risk turning toward your partner? Will s/he notice that? Are you pushing each others' buttons in an attempt to connect? Are you pushing buttons unconsciously and unaware of the consequences?
I realize I’m offering more questions here than answers. Curiosity is a large part of healing disconnection in a couple (community, or the world). What are you wondering about yourself or your behavior in relation to wanting and missing opportunities with your partner?
Do you want to create an upward spiral of connection, love, communication, and passion?