By Chandrama Anderson
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About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in ... (More)
About this blog: About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple, Stanford University, and in Silicon Valley for 15 years before becoming a therapist. My background in high-tech is helpful in understanding local couples' dynamics and the pressures of living here. I am a wife, mom, sister, friend, author, and lifelong advocate for causes I believe in (such as marriage equality). My parents are both deceased. My son graduated culinary school and is heading toward a degree in Sociology. I enjoy reading, hiking, water fitness, movies, 49ers and Stanford football, Giants baseball, and riding a tandem bike with my husband. I love the beach and mountains; nature is my place of restoration. In my work with couples, and in this blog, I combine knowledge from many fields to bring you my best ideas, tips, tools and skills, plus book and movie reviews, and musings to help you be your genuine self, find your own voice, and have a happy and healthy relationship. Don't be surprised to hear about brain research and business skills, self-soothing techniques from all walks of life, suggestions and experiments, and anything that lights my passion for couples. (Author and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Calif. Lic # MFC 45204.) (Hide)
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What one or two things will I do better than I did in 2103 that will make my marriage stronger and healthier and happier?
Let's make a list of ideas here. I'll start:
? I will purposely remember falling in love, and nurture those feelings ? now!
? I will put his needs equally with my own, and choose actions from that vantage point.
? I will stop assuming my husband isn't thinking about a topic that's important to me, even if he doesn't raise that topic. (I can bring it up. I have been happily surprised to find out just how much thought he had already given.)
? I will share my own fears and uncertainties more. I don't have to take care of it myself (despite learning that lesson quite well growing up); we can do it together.
Since our goal is to be a healthy, happy couple, I will . . .
(Now it's your turn, readers.)