Battle in the war on drugs comes to Pleasanton Around Town, posted by Editor, Pleasanton Weekly Online, on Oct 31, 2011 at 8:48 pm
Yes, Pleasanton has a drug problem, according to police, parents, pupils and professionals, but those same people say there are solutions. A forum for high school parents and community members on Oct. 26 drew about 60 people -- with a significant contingent of district employees.
Read the full story here Web Link posted Monday, October 31, 2011, 5:07 PM
Posted by Candace, a resident of the Highland Oaks neighborhood, on Nov 1, 2011 at 8:15 am
Addiction and alcoholism is a disease. It's not caused by an upbringing. It runs in families genes. It never goes away, so the person with the addiction could seek help from the Axis Community Health Center. They need to learn how to live, without the drugs and alcohol.
There are a lot of people with many, many years of sobriety. It can be done.
Posted by Brian, a resident of the Downtown neighborhood, on Nov 1, 2011 at 8:15 am
Open your eyes and be a part of your child's life... Dahhhhh It's been in Pleasanton schools for a long while now.. You can't be that clueless... If you have a child then be a part of your child's life... I knew this before my kids even entered the schools here, the more affluent areas are riddled with drugs and far easier to get. Money, nannies as opposed to parents, careers over children, etc. etc. etc. Wake up....
Posted by Jon, a resident of the Birdland neighborhood, on Nov 1, 2011 at 8:48 am
Are you all crazy? Drugs are nothing new. They have been in schools and neighborhoods for many years. I would bet dollars to dough nuts that most of the people reading this have tried one drug or another. Does that mean that you had bad parents? (Mike)? this will always go on. It comes down to how involved are you with your kids and how willing are they to talk to you about this?
Just because you try some pot does not mean that you will be smoking crack tomorrow.(Lon Johnson) Let's be real, I went to school here over 20 years ago and drugs were everywhere. No city is above drugs and teenage drug use. Stop trying to place blame and judge people! roll up your sleeves and get involved! Name calling and finger pointing won't help anything!
Posted by Informed, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Nov 1, 2011 at 10:00 am
Most parents are clueless as to what their children are doing/who they are hanging out with. Just log in to facebook and see who your kids are hanging out with. It amazes me that parents don't do this more. The kids are posting pictures of themselves drunk and talking about who/what they are doing.
Posted by Steve, a resident of the Stoneridge neighborhood, on Nov 1, 2011 at 11:37 am
I grew up in the 80's with an older brother in the drug scene. I went to parties with him and constantly begged him to stop. Although constantly exposed to every type of drug, I have never used any drug except alcohol for recreation (when I was legal). I was constantly offered a "toke", etc., but I saw how much destruction it caused in our family, and I didn't want any part of it. Do not ever say that pot is not a drug. "crz" is a fool.
Both my Dad and now my brother have been alcoholics, and both of my Dad's parents were heavy drinkers too, but I drink infrequently, and it's usually a single glass of wine or beer with dinner. I can take it or leave it frankly. So I utterly dismiss the idea that addiction is a "disease" that you can catch or pass down in your DNA. Addiction is caused by external factors, that probably get passed down through a family as habits or "traditions", like neglect and abuse.
I think my brother was trying to get back at my parents for years of physical abuse by my Dad. I didn't get the same abuse that he did, so I can't say what would have happened if I did. I have worked hard to provide a loving home for my kids and stay incredibly active in their lives, and I hope this will be the best prevention for addiction.
I see so many parents in Pleasanton quite willing to put their children in the care of others so they can amass more wealth. I may not have a lot of money, but I really know who my children are and they know that I care about them. If you don't NEED to have both parents working, stop it until your kids are adults.
Posted by Caltrader, a resident of the Danbury Park neighborhood, on Nov 1, 2011 at 12:05 pm
Every human being is born into this world in a fallen state of humanity and will naturally gravitate towards the wrong and immoral things in life. Until that condition is changed, there will always be drugs, crime, greed, etc. The only way that condition can change is through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, not Allah, not Buddha, nor anyone else.
Posted by reasonable parent, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Nov 1, 2011 at 2:49 pm
We are a family with teenagers who are NOT using drugs, and ARE getting good grades, even though we both work (not so we can be superwealthy, but so we can send them to college). Our kids are always busy -- homework, chores, music or sports. We don't let them "do nothing". We have someone drive them around after school every day, so they do homework and get to lessons/practice. When we let them go out on their own (teenagers all need a little bit of freedom - remember when you were 16?) they have to be in touch at all times, and they don't have their own car.
But hey -- our kids have friends (some of whom have - gasp! - stay at home moms!)who run around unsupervised and "hang out". Kids who are too lazy to stay in sports or activities and end up at Las Positas trying to figure out what to do next.
Stay at home moms don't all raise "good" kids and working parents are not all raising unsupervised druggies. There is a lot more going on.
Posted by not a user, a resident of the Pleasanton Heights neighborhood, on Nov 1, 2011 at 3:13 pm
What amazes me is that these rich Pleasanton brats are given everything from cell phones to designer clothes to BMWs. Their parents have plenty of time for the mani/pedi weekly, the sports club, the golf club, but never pay attention to what their kids are doing or who they are with.
Is your kid using a computer behind a locked door? Are you stupid? Does your kid go to parties where you don't know the parents at the host house? Are there even parents there? Or maybe it's the house in Ruby Hill where Mommy sat in the driveway and sold tickets to the party where booze and drugs were provided.
You people who breed them and then ignore them disgust me. Your kids are accountable to you and you need to make them understand that. Don't expect the rest of us to bear the burden for your trash if you do not raise your kids to be responsible human beings.
Posted by Jon, a resident of the Birdland neighborhood, on Nov 1, 2011 at 3:30 pm
What is with the name calling? All these "Adults” and I use that word only because of your age. How can you lump the kids together. Rich brats spoiled, trash, rich parents that don't care.
Why does it matter how much or little they make. If your parents are rich you are a spoiled brat that uses drugs. You are all jealous of what they have and this is how you get back. Hide behind your computer and call names! Brilliant!
What is wrong with starting out at Las Positas? Now all the sudden if you do not go straight to a four year college you are worthless? You all make me sick and I am glad you hide behind your computer in your superb world and look down at everyone. I am so glad I don't know you and my kids don't either.
You are all very disappointing. Ridiculous! Sit around and call names to other people. Nice, how about this...... since you all know everything why don't you get involved and try to help someone.
I know.... hard to do that and look down your pathetic nose at everyone!
Posted by Scott, a resident of the Ruby Hill neighborhood, on Nov 1, 2011 at 3:37 pm
Haters! not all of us teens are bad! what about when you were a kid. It is not our fault that your parents did not provide you with the things we have. Maybe they both should have worked! Must be nice to sit down there and try to throw rocks up here at us!
And just because my dad has a job where he can afford for my mom to get the weekly "Mani\Pedi" and for me to wear nice clothes does not make me a drug dealer nor does it mean he is not involved in my life!
Posted by Jon, a resident of the Birdland neighborhood, on Nov 1, 2011 at 4:20 pm
Kids say lots of things that make no sense. I do not think we should use that as an excuse to say it is a bad thing. You as the adult should know that furthering your education in any form is a good thing.
How about your kid who may or may not go to a four year and spend all your money on an education just to graduate and do something that has nothing to do with the education they just got?
I work with recent college grads in a recruitment position and most of them wish they would have gone to community college and figured out what they really want to do. These kids are from Cal, Stanford, MIT and many other great Universities.
My teenage daughter’s friend just called someone a "biznatch" I think so will you be using that one tomorrow?
Posted by Been There, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Nov 1, 2011 at 8:29 pm
To: "Not A User"
Resentment is a by-product of addiction so maybe an inventory of your own faults might be enlightening.
Steve- you're a lucky guy not to have the addiction illness that your brother and father have/had. Ask a family who has a child with diabetes, cancer, arthritis etc. if ALL of their kids have the same disease. Chances are the rest of their kids will be disease free. Addiction is a metabolic disease exhibited by a compulsion for a substance that their sibling could "take or leave".
Wealth/poverty have nothing to do with addiction. We have both rich and poor in our family and it's the genetic make-up that is the determining factor in addiction.
There but for the Grace of God go I...
But...watch your kids nevertheless...being addicted at a young age comes with consequences that make success in life a tougher to attain.
Posted by Mary Mele, a resident of Livermore, on Nov 2, 2011 at 2:19 am
Always interesting that folks write all these great comments....but don't have the confidence to include their full name! never understand that!
Our kids have so much going on...some of it is stuff that parents can see/control--some of it is not. We all need to slow down and start looking into the eyes of our kids. Raising a teen begins at about age 2--not age 12. Kids need their parents in elementary--into middle--and to the very end of high school and beyond.
Please do not diminish the effect we have, as parents, on our kids. Sometimes it is uncomfortable to 'be in' our kids' lives. But it is always better to be there from the very beginning instead of jumping in after bad habits and 'survival' mode has taken root in our kids' daily lives.
Love them. Lead them. Apologize when necessary. Hug them. Listen....listen more....Resist giving your advise--just really hear what they are saying....let them know you understand.
It is okay that you don't always know how to fix their problems---they'll figure that out--and sometimes life just doesn't work out in neat little packages....they will survive if they know that the people who should love them the most are on their team--always there-and that doesn't mean denying their bad decisions...it means loving them through them and guiding them...or finding other qualified people to do so. Go hug a kid today--your kid--their friends...Our kids are our future....and it really is a bright future!
Posted by concerned, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Nov 2, 2011 at 7:23 am
This is news?!? The middle schools all had drugs and alcohol readily available for some Pleasanton students. A mom of a girl my son was interested in told me "[son] has friends using drugs, but I'm glad [son] doesn't. It is okay for them to see each other." I was the clueless mom - no, I didn't know son had friends using drugs - though I suspected a few. He assured me one didn't (I still don't believe - kid had dilated pupils multiple times in a month, i.e. not just the eye doctor and behavior changes or may be it was "middle school") There was much more in high school - both Amador and Foothill (kids went to one and I subbed at the other). My kids are in college.
As for addiction, some are predisposed and others are not - same family. Great grandfather was an alcoholic. Grandmother didn't allow alcohol in the home. I had an alcoholic uncle, recovering alcoholic uncle, social drinker father. My brother is predisposed, but not. Once addicted to one substance, often a different one is substituted. So everything now needs to be examined.
Posted by May, a member of the Amador Valley High School community, on Nov 2, 2011 at 9:19 am
Yes--drugs are a very serious issue in Pleasanton. Instead of pointing figures at one another, we should be working towards addressing the issue itself. Prescription drugs are HUGE in this town, I know many kids who use them recreationally, some become addicted, some turn out fine, some end up in rehab, while others have to deal with the issues for the rest of their lives.
Prescription drugs are killing our children and exposing them to absurdities at too young of an age. Every 15 Minutes has been huge in our schools for years because drunk driving was/is a huge scare among high schoolers. Please, people, let's gather together and EDUCATE our children on the scary consequences of abusing drugs. And I'm not talking just a health class showing frightening pictures. Let's start something real for these kids to relate to. Bring in speakers who can share the whole process: from recreation, to addiction, to withdrawals, to rehab. Show real numbers of how much money it costs to feed an addiction. Demonstrate that the majority of prescription drugs abused have only been around for one or two decades, no one really knows what the real consequences are.
We must instill morals in these kids lives so they have a reason to say no when presented with a choice, because they will be exposed to these atrocities. Pleasanton is a wonderful place to grow up in, let's try and preserve that repuation for generations to come.
Posted by Guest, a resident of another community, on Nov 2, 2011 at 11:56 am
Marijuana isn't just entering middle schools, it's been there for years. I went to Harvest Park in the early 90's and remember many times police coming and arresting students who were caught dealing pot from their locker. I think the mindset of "it's entering our middle school" is one of the problems- drugs have been in Pleasanton for a long time. In high school it was all about the raves and students dealing E out at the baseball fields during lunch hour. This is not new news.
Posted by Resident, a member of the Foothill High School community, on Nov 2, 2011 at 7:46 pm
Yes, my teen also encounters students high on drugs, talking about drug use, etc. at school. The good kids see these kids on a bad path and they don't want to give names to the adults. Ask you kids if they know what Axis is. They counsel kids with drug problems and those seeking birth control. Ask your kids if they have been to Axis or received services from them. Also, when they tell you they are going to the football game, they might not be at the game. I'm seeing lots of kids loitering around campus in the corners of school and in the parks and greenbelts while the game is going on. If you don't pay attention, you kids might be the ones discussed here. Also, if you go home and have a couple of drinks every night, you are likely sending the wrong message to your kids about alcohol use.
Posted by Laura, a resident of the Birdland neighborhood, on Nov 3, 2011 at 9:10 am
It's time to quit bashing the parents. If your kid has a drug problem and it took awhile to really figure out what was going on, give yourself a break. I grew up in a pretty "normal" family. Myself and my 2 brothers all went to a junior college ( gasp!!) and went on to a 4 year college...graduated and we all have great jobs.
I was not exposed to drug or any kind of addiction growing up or into adulthood. Not until my own son became an addict. Had I noticed the signs earlier on, perhaps he would not be having the problems he is having now.
Parents do need to wake up and take notice of their kids and what they are doing. They may think they are doing normal teenage partying when in fact it is much serious and can lead to addiction. Once the line is crossed and addiction sets in, the entire family is a part of this awful disease.
Posted by Not just students?, a member of the Foothill High School community, on Nov 7, 2011 at 11:18 pm
I'm reading here all of the discussions regarding teens/students hooked on drugs, but I read something on the other Pleasanton news site days ago about a Foothill teacher arrested on drug charges. Nothing anywhere on the PW site that I could find, though. Does this mean it didn't happen? Or ?