Posted by Concerned, a resident of the Laguna Oaks neighborhood, on Jan 5, 2011 at 11:10 am
Why would teachers keep it on the "down-low"? It is a big problem there. Kids are openly using on campus - witnessed by fellow students who are probably too afraid to narc on someone for fear of retaliation or losing friends. This is not just a school problem but I believe the school needs to beef up security or something. We all want to believe this doesn't happen in our town, but oh-yes it is happening.
Posted by Parent, a resident of the Foothill Farms neighborhood, on Jan 5, 2011 at 9:56 pm
Parents need to step up and volunteer in the high schools. More adult supervision is needed at that level than at the elementary but there are pretty much no parent volunteers. At the elementary level parents are everywhere. We need to create a culture of parent involvement at the high school level. We used to help the teachers more when our kids were younger, let's do it again! It can only help our kids.
Posted by Hmmmm, a resident of the Amberwood/Wood Meadows neighborhood, on Jan 5, 2011 at 10:15 pm
I took this post completely different. I thought "Just Sayin" was joking that the teachers had the problem and were keeping it quiet.
Regardless, Foothill students as a whole have way too much money given to them by their parents. It's time for us to step up to the plate and parent our children instead of being their best friend and blaming the school system for our failures.
Posted by GX, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Jan 6, 2011 at 7:08 am
Hmmmm - You are spot on. It is interesting to have had our kids grow up in the same town all these years and watch them and their friends grow and take different paths. You were able to point out the problem kids years ago who have ended up getting into trouble today. This did not happen over night and I place much of the blame on poor parenting. It is interesting how people in our society first look to place the blame for problems on external institutions/people rather than first looking in the mirror.
Why should I volunteer more of my time to make up for the deficiencies of others? Shouldn't we be calling out the cases of poor parenting as they are and get them to step up to fix the problem? Why aren't the parents of known druggies on campus volunteering to make up for the damage their kids are creating? I recognize this is not politically correct, but the responsible people are getting very tired of continually bailing out the irresponsible components of our society.
Posted by Maja7, a member of the Amador Valley High School community, on Jan 6, 2011 at 9:42 am
All this talk about how the schools need to do more! Really? So, you want the schools to do the job that the parents are supposed to be doing! Why not just drop your child off the day after he/she is born at the local daycare center and pick them up when they are 25????That's sarcastic, obviously.....The job of parenting is not for the weak. My children are my responsibility. I see far too many materialistic over-indulgences by parents, when all our children need is our attention, time, love and guidance. I know where my children are at ALL times, I know who they are with and what they are doing. Do you know????
Posted by Diana, a member of the Foothill High School community, on Jan 6, 2011 at 11:53 am
If I had not had my last child I would be thinking I am the best parent and judging others for not doing as well. My last child came along to humble me. Same parents, but a very different child with different needs. We have not worked any less diligently toward raising him into a responsible person but we have had real challenges. I know others, who used to envy our children's success, now judge us.
Parenting is the most important, hard job. Parents in this community care about their kids. I try not to judge others.
Our very challenging kid will be a responsible adult, we will help him get there.
Posted by GX, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Jan 6, 2011 at 12:34 pm
Most kids at Foothill know the gang that hang out together and use drugs. Ask your own kids to confirm. These are the same kids that go to large minimally supervised parties (some co-ed sleep overs).
Why is that something so obvious will not be dealt with in the open? Political correctness? Why aren't the parents of those kids being notified by other parents in the know? Everyone is so afraid of offending others and being shunned.
It takes a community to raise a child. We are failing our kids by remaining silent.
Posted by Concerned, a resident of the Laguna Oaks neighborhood, on Jan 6, 2011 at 1:00 pm
I didn't mean that the schools should solve the problem. I agree that it is the parents' responsibility to "parent" their child. I merely meant that perhaps there should be more supervision on the campus so that illegal activity can be curtailed. There are many parents who believe their child/children are responsible, would NEVER drink or do drugs, but yet these kids are the ones using and selling at school.
As for the parties...I have no problem confronting a parent/parents whose children have had a party where alcohol found it's way into the party. I have done this. Parents were unaware, but foolishly believed these were "good" kids or have known them for years. Wake up..."good" kids or kids you have known for years still need to be under the watchful eye of parents.
Posted by Tea Party Patriot, a resident of the California Somerset neighborhood, on Jan 6, 2011 at 6:57 pm
More supervision at the schools? Are you guys crazy? We need more BUDGET CUTS! More kids in each classroom, fewer teachers and supporting staff, and larger student-to-counselor ratios will allow the truly worthy students to stand out.
You bleeding heart libs need to toughen up. Your answer to everything is to rely on government programs, when all they really should do is refund my taxes!
Posted by Pleasanton Mom, a resident of the Canyon Meadows neighborhood, on Jan 7, 2011 at 4:00 pm
Interesting...when the topic of parenting and kids in Pleasanton comes up. My teenage son was TROUBLE in high school,I cried and worried, and prayed and tried everything, however, I his mom and his dad, did the best we could, but some things were out of our control, he knew right from wrong, and chose a path, we could not follow him around 24/7 atthe age of 17....we are and have always been good parents, that young man is 23 now, holds down a good job and is a wonderful, strong and funny young man. Life happens, and sometimes lessens are learned and you can't blame anyone sorry....
Posted by Parent, a resident of the Ruby Hill neighborhood, on Jan 7, 2011 at 9:08 pm
Amador has the same drug problems as Foothill, so parents don't be blind. It's happening throughout town. The kids went to PMS together, don't be fooled into thinking Amador is any safer than Foothill. Listen to the kids. They talk about this. Make sure you are your childs Facebook friend. You will be amazed at what you see.
Posted by Retiree, a resident of another community, on Jan 8, 2011 at 9:49 am
Blame, blame, blame--why is this always the reaction to someone pointing out a problem in Pleasanton? It's the parents! It's the teachers! How about, it's the kids! Foothill's problem is no worse than Amador's--I agree with Pleasanton Mom. Drugs and alcohol are here, and it's very hard for kids to resist when they see it on TV and hear it in the music, even with really good, involved parents. If your child shows evidence of using, don't ignore it--get on it fast and get some help if necessary. Kids can and do die from this--to brush it off as just normal teen activity is dangerous.
You will know soon enough if it is something to worry about--the consequences start to happen fast, i.e. grades and behavior. My child is now 25 and has recovered, but our family went through hell for a few years. Get some good help, for the kid and for yourself.
Posted by BS, a resident of the Stoneridge neighborhood, on Jan 13, 2011 at 7:30 am
I went to both HS' not too long ago. Yes Amador children (like most hs students) drink on the weekends. I believe that Foothill has a much larger problem when it comes to other heavy drugs. Point blank parents need to step up and stop making excuses. It is sad that a child had to take his own life for people to see that there is a problem here.
Posted by Kate, a resident of the Bridle Creek neighborhood, on Feb 8, 2011 at 3:06 pm
Drugs are a very serious problem in Pleasanton. Both high schools have big problems. It saddens me when I hear parents on this forum patting themselves on the back for being the "perfect" parents whose children never got involved in drugs. I'm sure you did a fine job, but some of it is luck, you were lucky your child never took that dangerous road. Many of us "bad" parents raised beautiful, successful children but may have had one child that just couldn't follow the rules. Some kids are born with defiance and are easily misguided despite the fact that they have loving, caring nurturing parents. I raised two highly successful children who are now successful adults. Their younger sibling, on the other hand has been in and out of trouble, drugs, defiance, depression. They were raised the same way with two loving parents. There are no guarantees in life. I may have sounded like some of you before, blaming parents, but the truth is you can only be the best you can be and the rest is up to the child. I pray for all our children in this community who have taken a wrong turn.