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Original post made by Disheartened on May 30, 2010

Dear Pleasanton Community and Bloggers,

I really have to say that although I believe strongly in our first amendment rights, I have become so disheartened at what is being posted in such a public forum, particularly the last thread about Furlough Days.

Now is a time of frustration as our once strong economy is taking a big sigh and trying to pick itself back up. In these difficult times, you must really ask yourself if you are going to be part of the problem or part of the solution. So many of these threads are dividing the community in a time when we should be coming together. Everyone is out to "get mine" and step on everyone's heads on their climb up the ladder.

There is a very wise children's book out there called, "Have You Filled A Bucket Today?" It's about how we each have "invisible buckets". You can either fill each other's bucket by doing good and kind thing or you can be bucket "dipper" and dip into each other's buckets, leaving people feeling empty and hurt. So next time you think about posting, think about what kind of person you want to be.

Bucket Dipper................... Bucket Filler????

P.S. You really shouldn't post anything on here that you wouldn't want posted on the front page of the newspaper with your name attached. Karma is a ***** so think twice about who you are attacking and why.

Comments (23)

Posted by Cholo, a resident of Livermore
on May 30, 2010 at 5:36 pm

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Posted by Big Poppa, a resident of Del Prado
on May 30, 2010 at 6:52 pm

Disheartened you are a [Portion removed due to disrespectful comment or offensive language] who probably still believes in Santa Clause. The world is hard and cruel so put down the childrens book [Portion removed due to disrespectful comment or offensive language]. This country was founded on disagreements.


Posted by Dan, a resident of Bridle Creek
on May 30, 2010 at 8:29 pm

Schools and kids,

Just curious, who/what is part of the problem and who/what is the solution?
I suspect I know the answer since you so aptly said "Everyone is out to "get mine"...", but curious nonetheless.

Dan


Posted by Thomas Paineful, a resident of Canyon Oaks
on May 30, 2010 at 9:00 pm

The world is a hard and cruel place, indeed.

It doesn't have to be, of course.

It's made hard and cruel by bullies who like to beat the living crap out of other people for no other reason than they can.

Life is all about choices. This is the world we've chosen.

How do you like it?


Posted by MARCUS DE LA FUEGO, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 30, 2010 at 9:32 pm

You guys better be good. there's a new sheriff in town to keep the peace.

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Posted by letsgo, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 30, 2010 at 11:12 pm

If you really believe that these forums are a\representative of the community then we have serious issues all around us. Look at the number of different posters...10, 20, 50 even 100. There are 60,000 - 70,000 people who live in Pleasanton, do the math.


Posted by M., a resident of Downtown
on May 30, 2010 at 11:50 pm

M. is a registered user.

Yes, it would be better to not be so cruel to each other. I will give you that. Perhaps though the situation is a little different, more to the point that the forum acts more as a sounding board than a place for true discussion. People tend to just go off half cocked myself included venting their frustrations and whatnot. I am quite sure that we would all be civil to each other were we holding such discussions at Tully's or somewhere else.


Posted by !, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 31, 2010 at 6:46 am

If you want to be "part of the solution" then NEVER EVER EVER vote Democrat again!!!


Posted by resident, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 31, 2010 at 9:23 am

I'm pretty sure that the taxpayers would be considered the bucket fillers in almost any, but the most radically biased opinion.


Posted by dublinmike, a resident of Dublin
on May 31, 2010 at 10:41 am

dublinmike is a registered user.

"!, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood" Another Pleasanton resident of bitterness. Guess the Republicans are angels... full of wife cheats, gamblers, closet-homosexuals, hypocrites, and more.

Let's knock idiotic general statements like yours. If I really believed what I typed above applied to all Republicans then I would be as small minded as you.


Posted by School and Kids, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 31, 2010 at 11:40 am

All that I meant when I wrote this post was to encourage people to really think about how their words affect or hurt people. That's all. More people read these blogs than you know and outside people that read these also get a feel for our community that way. And to "Dan"- I'm not quite sure what you mean by my reference of "get mine". I was saying that to make a point- that so many people are acting like ghetto idiots on here and are resorting to insults and ridicule rather than helpful solutions.
I simple asked you to look in the mirror and ask yourself if you can be proud of everything you've done that day- including what you post on these blogs.


Posted by D W, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 31, 2010 at 3:22 pm

Unfortunately, Disheartened, as right as you are above there being too much divisiveness within our posts, the purpose of these blogs is to have the freedom to vent before one thinks. In other words, people have a right to disagree idiotically instead of respectfully.

Sadly, this kind of venting sells and sells way too successfully. Why do you think that both McNerney AND Harmer will have to work harder than ever before in order to keep or obtain top House status for our district?

Note that those are my first two choices to represent us in D.C. because whether we agree or disagree with either or both views, they are men's men, solidly professional. Can't say that about Harmer's biggest rivals, who act like they're from different planets. At least Harmer was mentored by the GOP's favorite hero (and his father actually worked with Reagan from 70-74). Give me two listeners over two hyperventers anytime.


Posted by colette, a resident of Del Prado
on May 31, 2010 at 5:40 pm

School and Kids, I like what you said. You are right...maybe we should concentrate on being kind to each other as opposed to ripping each other's heads off. Let's be bucket fillers, not bucket suckers. Try a random act of kindness and see how you feel. Trust me, it feels great!


Posted by Elizabeth, a resident of Pleasanton Valley
on May 31, 2010 at 6:07 pm

I agree with disheartened. Let's work together with higher, creative, productive attitudes rather than discontent, criticism and fault finding. We live in difficult financial times---now let's deal with it in positive ways and forget the name calling and finger pointing. Start with taking time to learn as many facts as you can and vote for candidates and issues that represent honor, integrity, your personal values, and those of the Community in which we live.


Posted by Forum is good, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 31, 2010 at 7:05 pm

Wear blinders, see no evil, speak no evil, hear no evil, cover-up, pretend,that's not living in or improving the real world. Nothing gets accomplished, or solved, and how can problems in our schools & city get fixed if you live in denial and don't deal with ALL the facts. I certainly hope Disheart, Colette, & Eliz, and all the other Mrs Cleaver's don't vote. It's naive voters that are destroying our country and community with their sweet, blind & uninformed votes. Please, go bake some cookies. What's the line "you can't stand the TRUTH!".


Posted by steve, a resident of Parkside
on May 31, 2010 at 8:38 pm

! was right, dublin mikie----it wasn't Republicans in Calif that got us into the situation we're in now. The R's haven't been a majority in power in Calif for 40 years, so who you gonna blame now? Of course, you couldn't refute th efacts, only regurgitate the same old personal attacks citing isolated indisgressions as if they are unique to the right only.
God, you are grouchier than ever since you came out of the closet and your messiah's polling figures have tanked.


Posted by veterinary technician, a resident of Ridgeview Commons
on May 31, 2010 at 8:48 pm

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Posted by disheartened, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 31, 2010 at 10:21 pm

thank you so much to you positive players in pleasanton!!! You are a small voice in this "blog" community and I think that to so many that read this- are a breath of fresh air. Thank you so much for taking this post seriously and thinking about how our words affect others. Pay it forward my friends!!!... there are so many wonderful people here that do appreciate teachers and community members and families that work hard for the common goal; our kids! Let's not lose sight of who this "fight" is really for!!!! Keep that faith.. .continue to be a bucket filler.. and things will be ok!!!!!!


Posted by Paulette, a resident of Val Vista
on May 31, 2010 at 11:41 pm

I spoke with a nice young man from Tennessee tonight who told me his family prays out loud in church for him because he believes in evolution and is a science major in college. He laughed; but, I thought how difficult it must be for him to not get the recognition of what a wonderful and bright young man he is from those closest to him. Pleasanton does have its share of angry, hateful, and ignorant people. Let's hope that this ugliness that's descended since a black man became president goes away soon; and, that kindness and community will take its place.


Posted by colette, a resident of Del Prado
on Jun 1, 2010 at 10:02 am

To Forum is good: Can't say I've ever been called Mrs Cleaver before! :) (That's a new one since my kids thought for many years that cookies were only made from a cookie dough bucket!) Having a positive attitude should never impact my right to vote, you moron. Are you so friggin negative that you can't stand the thought of anyone doing something good for our community or the guy next door? Trying to find the good in this crazy, negative world has nothing to do with my political viewpoints. Get a heart...let's hope your kids are hanging out at my bake sale..maybe they will learn something about kindness from me and the other Mrs. Cleavers I hang out with!


Posted by Forum is good, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Jun 1, 2010 at 12:00 pm

A problem can never get FIXED, without the courage to face it. I pitty children who haven't been taught to be strong enough to face and fix problems. If we all buried our heads in the sand, we could never have achieved what we have.
Now, now, name calling me moron. I never said you didn't have the RIGHT. I said the gullible , who blindly buy into pitches are dangerous and give us 'mistakes'. You have to have the courage to
look under the rocks...all day, every day in your own environment. It's naive to go forth blindly.


Posted by Forum is good, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Jun 1, 2010 at 12:00 pm

A problem can never get FIXED, without the courage to face it. I pitty children who haven't been taught to be strong enough to face and fix problems. If we all buried our heads in the sand, we could never have achieved what we have.
Now, now, name calling me moron. I never said you didn't have the RIGHT. I said the gullible , who blindly buy into pitches are dangerous and give us 'mistakes'. You have to have the courage to
look under the rocks...all day, every day in your own environment. It's naive to go forth blindly.


Posted by Pleasanton Parent, a resident of Pleasanton Meadows
on Jun 1, 2010 at 8:52 pm

......what does the first amendment right have to do with posting on a forum?


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