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Where's the common decency?

Original post made by Anonymous on Apr 30, 2010


I am appalled by the number of parents who allow their children to be disruptive in restaurants and other establishments. Earlier today I was trying to enjoy a nice meal downtown, while a woman at a nearby table was doing nothing to get her children to stop screaming. The children did not appear to be upset or frustrated. From my observations, they seemed unusually hyper and would periodically scream to the top of their lungs for no apparent reason. It was loud enough that even 1/2 hour after they left, my ears still hurt. I would never allow my children to behave that way in public. Sure, children will do what they do, but this woman made absolutely no move whatsoever to discipline her children. She never once even asked her child to stop screaming, or to be quiet or anything else. The woman just ignored it and continued doing her thing.

I do not understand this. What is with some parents these days?

Comments (6)

Posted by Anonymous, a resident of Avila
on Apr 30, 2010 at 4:16 pm

Your ears were still hurting 30 minutes after? Those must be some remarkable ears. Maybe that's what was making the kids scream.


Posted by Terry, a resident of Country Fair
on Apr 30, 2010 at 4:43 pm

The previous comment did not make any sense. I somewhat agree with the blogger. When I was a young girl and my parents took me to a store or a restaurant, I knew what the expectation was. Some children are not taught to be respectful. They run around stores and touch everything. (Walmart) They act up in places of business. It's the parents job to teach these children. I know sometimes children get tired and cranky and you have to do your best. Maybe the woman should have left. Who knows maybe she beat the hec out of the kids when she got them home.


Posted by faceit, a resident of Vintage Hills Elementary School
on Apr 30, 2010 at 10:40 pm

if people would just realize that no one thinks your kids are cute that would help the situation.

Also parents of young kids are very self involved and don't realize that other people may not be around noisy and interruptive toddlers all day. If they could be considerate it would be greatly appreciated by others.

When our kids got noisy in stores or especially restaurants we immediately removed them because it wasn't fair to the others around us.

A little courtesy goes a long ways, both for those coping with louds kids nearby and for the parents who should not expect these people to be long suffering for very long!


Posted by Good grief, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 3, 2010 at 10:48 am

Keep throwing those stones; eventually someone will pitch one back in your direction and shatter that glass house you're living in.


Posted by Another parent, a resident of Downtown
on May 3, 2010 at 10:56 am

We were parents that only took our kids to restuarants on special occasions because we couldn't afford to do it anytime we didn't want to fix at home. That's probably the first reason we expected them to behave: it was something special.

But we also notice that parents today are busy and they have learned to tune out their kids' behavior, whether it's whining to them about something, hitting a sibling, chattering for no reason, or banging things on the table. They simply do not hear it anymore!!! It's easier to ignore than to constantly micro-manage those little behaviors that make children pleasant to be around.

We usually resort to staring and whispering to try to give the parents a clue that others are being disrupted by their little ones' actions.

...and we've even left before when it's been too bad.

Let your feet talk....walk out and the mangement of restuarants will finally have to start taking action in requesting that everyone be considerate in their businesses.


Posted by Cholo, a resident of Livermore
on May 3, 2010 at 2:45 pm

whiners...give it a rest...tee hee hee, tee hee hee...


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