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Split the kids up in High School or not?

Original post made by Werner Klemperer, Canyon Oaks, on Feb 6, 2010

I have two children very close in age that fight a lot. Should I send one to Amador (freshman this year) and one to Foothill (freshman next year) to keep some distance between them?
I think their competitiveness is a distraction. Any thoughts?

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Posted by bobbi
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Feb 6, 2010 at 10:11 am

amador's campus is so big and being in different grades, they may not even see each other during the day. I think having to pick up kids from 2 different campus' would be stressful. I think you should keep them on the same campus.


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Posted by Hogan
a resident of Amberwood/Wood Meadows
on Feb 6, 2010 at 11:45 am

Not sure what you should do...I'll check with Klink and get back to you.


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Posted by Pleasanton Parent
a resident of Pleasanton Meadows
on Feb 6, 2010 at 2:00 pm

I wouldn't. If anything, the competitiveness would grow - especially if they play sports. Additionally, why drive to two different locations? Later they can carpool together.


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Posted by My 2/100
a resident of Amador Estates
on Feb 6, 2010 at 9:51 pm

"I know nothing, I know nothing."


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Posted by Referee
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Feb 7, 2010 at 1:11 am

I think you should have them go to the same school. Like someone else said - the schools are so big and they are in different classes that they probably won't run into each other all day. My boys are close in age and argue constantly or are always trying to "one up" each other. I feel like a referee alot of the times. It is annoying, but they will get past it. I feel "healthy" competition will be good for them. Keep your kids at the same school - if you don't they will compete and argue over which school is better!


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Posted by sue
a resident of Birdland
on Feb 7, 2010 at 4:36 pm

Send them both to the Amador. As someone mentioned they will never see each other. I had the same problem with my two. After my oldest had her one year for her drivers license, she was able to drive her brother to school. They really started talking and enjoyed time together, with out us around. Good Luck


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Posted by Pleasanton Parent
a resident of Downtown
on Feb 8, 2010 at 8:41 am

As a parent we need to instill into our children how to get along with others starting with their siblings..Giving them an out for convenience will not teach them anything. They need to get over themselves and learn selflessness. Learn to be proud of their siblings accomplishments and help them when they fall... our ultimate goal is to bring up children who become good adults...

Just my two cents...

Plus why put yourself in that kind of situtation? two drop off spots,two pick ups, if they play sports which game will you attend? so on so forth..

Good luck


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Posted by Common sense
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Feb 8, 2010 at 8:54 am

Please send both of your kids to the high school in your attendance area.

It is not fair for some students to be denied enrollment at their home school because they move into the district after open enrollment, simply because some are choosing to go to schools outside their attendance area.

Amador is impacted already, with more students than Foothill, and many of those students are from outside the attendance area (ie should be at Foothill)

Your parenting issues and children's lack of respect for one another should be dealt with at home.


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Posted by Free Advice
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Feb 8, 2010 at 1:09 pm

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It is really ugly that sisters or brothers are allowed to put each other down.
They should be loyal to one another.

Parents need to teach their kids this at an early age, and not tolerate or encourage it.
This will serve them all of their lives,
and if applied to acquaintances will make the world a better place..


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Posted by Amador parent
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Feb 8, 2010 at 2:48 pm

Be the parent and tell them they have to do what works for you. You really don't want to be going to 2 schools for registration, back to school nights, commuting will be a nightmare. One high school, they both attend at the same time and they can ignore each other while on school grounds then deal with it at home.I bet they would stick up for each other if they got into a bad situation no matter how much they seem to dislike each other.


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Posted by ptownright
a resident of Downtown
on Feb 8, 2010 at 3:08 pm

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Send them both to Amador, I attended Amador with my younger sister who was 2 years behind and I never ran into her at all. There were many kids in my class that had siblings that attended the same school and it seemed to be a more positive experience.

Plus, depending on where you live, the kid who happened to go to the school further away will make friends on the other side of town making it difficult to hang out with them.


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Posted by momoftwo
a resident of Downtown
on Feb 21, 2010 at 3:19 pm

Absolutely send them to the same school! How inconvenient for you, and how accomodating do you want to be to their 'situation'? Tell 'em to get over it, and fast... I explained to my feuding brood that one day, far off in the future hopefully, when Mom & Dad were no longer around to 'referee', THEY would be the only 'family' they had... learn to appreciate each other and love each other, warts and all. It didn't end the fighting, but it did give them a different perspective. Also, I followed some professional advice and STOPPED interfering in their squabbles. We established a code word if they really wanted me to get involved, and some absolute rules about physical harm and bloodshed, lol, but barring that, Butt Out! They don't really want you involved...and they are learning some lessons on relationships, in spite of how annoying it is to listen to it. A few more years down the road and they actually really like each other...almost all the time! Remember, "This too shall pass" Mom.


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Posted by Annonymous
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Feb 22, 2010 at 8:52 am

Ok I need to know how you can go about doing this? How can you send one kid to one school and another kid to another school if they live in the same house? Can you simply choose? It sounds like something that the district wouldn't let you do.


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Posted by Wake up
a resident of Grey Eagle Estates
on Feb 22, 2010 at 7:36 pm

I think you should have dealt with this issue a long time ago... thats rediculous that you would even consider going through all the hastle. They have to grow up sometime


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Posted by sarah
a resident of Amador Valley High School
on Feb 25, 2010 at 11:11 am

Personally, I think it depends on how severe the situation is. I have a sister who has a histrionic personality disorder -- As I was the youngest (and also a nice person who was well liked) I was her "target." She manipulated all of my personal relationships in some of the most viciously underhanded ways you can't even imagine. She was incredibly persuasive with people and spread full on lies about me to every person who she perceived might see me as a good friend. Thank God for the few people who stood by me. Of course no one would ever have thought she was doing such things (which she later admitted during her brief "born again christian" phase) -- especially not even me.

You can't deal with this kinds of personality disorder; it can't be "cured". The afflicted simply has no comprehension that they're doing anything they shouldn't be doing. If you have any similar type of situation -- ABSOLUTELY I would send them to different schools, and God bless you for doing so! (just understand that if it's severe, the "bad one" will find a way to jump school gossip borders)


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