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A Challenge - Use One Name

Original post made by Stay Cool, Another Pleasanton neighborhood, on Sep 28, 2009

Given the often heated nature of the discussions on these boards, it would be great to see people pick one name to post under and stick to it. It might make people think more carefully about what they say, and would prevent attacks from people whose anonymity is twice (or more times) removed. If you're confident in your argument, then please have the confidence to stick to one name.

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Posted by Parent of Two
a resident of Val Vista
on Sep 28, 2009 at 2:10 pm

Parent of Two is a registered user.

I agree with Stay Cool.

On this subject, but not many others...


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Posted by Patriot Liberal
a resident of Downtown
on Sep 28, 2009 at 2:16 pm

Funny you should bring this up as I just e-mailed Gina Allen on this matter.

I for one WAS called out for using subject matter rather than a name, any consistent mane and I have complied in using Patriot Liberal.

Constantly using scree names such as "Posted by Change in Opposite Direction of Obama/McNerney" really is just counter productive.

Really since the forum is totally anonymous, it is used more to slander the President and promote a anti government agenda more often than not here in Pleasanton.


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Posted by Arroyo
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 29, 2009 at 8:47 am

I'm thinking of changing my posting name to "Enlightened Former Kool-Aid Liberal". It is a little long, but it gives me a warm and fuzzy feeling.


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Posted by Stay Cool
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 29, 2009 at 8:56 am

Whatever floats your boat! :)


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Posted by Ken in South Pleasanton
a resident of Downtown
on Sep 29, 2009 at 9:58 am

Wouldn't it be confusing if we all used just one name? Maybe you could all use Ken in South Pleasanton so I don't have to change mine.


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Posted by Tom Kelly
a resident of Stoneridge Park
on Sep 29, 2009 at 1:16 pm

Why don't you all use your true given names and stop hiding behind the anonymity. If the person posting used their real name, my bet is that the poster would be a little more thoughtful in their writing. Maybe even a lot more thoughtful.


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Posted by Lee
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 29, 2009 at 2:16 pm

Stick to one name? I never changed it! Is this a slow news week for our town or what. There are bigger things to talk about, like the US, France and Britain standing up to Iran and how is their president going to respond?


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Posted by Stacey
a resident of Amberwood/Wood Meadows
on Sep 29, 2009 at 3:13 pm

Stacey is a registered user.

"Tom Kelly",

Assuming that that is your real name, I have yet to see that civility is ensured by the use of a real name. Some of the most outrageous use their real names.


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Posted by Qwerty
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 29, 2009 at 4:14 pm


Cholo's comments are quite ridiculous at times and I'm fairly certain that isn't her or her name.


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Posted by Parent of Two
a resident of Val Vista
on Sep 29, 2009 at 4:19 pm

Parent of Two is a registered user.

Tom Kelly,

While a noble thought, it probably isn't a practical or safe idea to use your own name. The internet harbors all types of people, some of whom aren't as stable as you or I. It would take mere moments of googling to find out where people live, where they work, and probably their family members. Honestly, there is NOTHING to gain from using your real name, and a lot to lose.


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Posted by seriously?
a resident of Canyon Oaks
on Sep 29, 2009 at 4:34 pm

Who cares. Why does it matter who has a given opinion anyways? Much more important things to worry about.


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Posted by Patriot Conservative
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 29, 2009 at 4:40 pm

Here we go again... the liberals are trying to mark those who think differently than them!


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Posted by Patriot Liberal
a resident of Downtown
on Sep 29, 2009 at 4:44 pm

Patriot Conservative,

What may I ask are you talking about?


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Posted by Stay Cool
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 29, 2009 at 4:48 pm

Yes, there are more things to worry about, so if you don't like this thread, don't respond.
If, however, you are involved in responding on other, more significant threads, I am sure you have seen people who post in attack mode, sometimes even using the name of the person(s) they are attacking. My point is that if you are going to post, don't use multiple names, and don't use other posters' names to front an attack against someone else. Pick one name for yourself and stick to it, so people actually can create a conversation instead of dodging randomly labeled insults. If you have been on the receiving end of one of these insults, you understand why it is not feasible to use your real name. People get really vicious.


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Posted by Patriot Conservative
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 29, 2009 at 6:42 pm

I got my response... proves my point...


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Posted by Stay Cool
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 29, 2009 at 7:13 pm

Um, OK - then we look forward to hearing more from "Patriot Conservative" in the future?


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Posted by Tom Kelly
a resident of Stoneridge Park
on Sep 30, 2009 at 1:50 pm

Parent of Two:

I understand the fear you may have over the physical retaliation of someone who disagrees with you. It does happen. My children are grown and moved out of our home. I don't need to worry about them concerning my own participation in blogs. It is certainly sad to live in this type of fear.

However, those who hide behind anonymity don't need to take responsibility for their actions (in this case words) and I feel we all need to take responsibility for our actions. This is not meant in any political - conservative / liberal connotation. It means that we all might look into leading honest lives - anonymity is not an honest way to lead a life. With anonymity, one does not need to be factual. Without facts, and equipped only with innuendo and fabrication, communication is reduced to nothing more than name-calling and untruths. It becomes "truthiness" -

1. truthiness (noun). 1 : "truth that comes from the gut, not books" (Stephen Colbert, Comedy Central's "The Colbert Report," October 2005) (added to Websters Dictionary in 2006)

This is what I see in this blog. Their is a willingness in this blog for people to say anything, whether civil or not. I believe this to be true because of anonymity and a the resulting lack of personal responsibility for one's actions. People feel safe behind the vale of anonymity. They feel equalized with their perceived adversary through anonymity.

The fact is that no one is equalized by anonymity. They are only deluded into forgetting their fear. Living honestly is empowering. Living in fear is disabling.


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Posted by Tom Kelly
a resident of Stoneridge Park
on Sep 30, 2009 at 2:00 pm

Stacy,

Tom Kelly is my "real name" (at least that's what my birth certificate says) and although bloggers may not be civil while using their real names, I believe that most people, of course not all, would take more responsibility for their posts if everyone new who they were.


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Posted by Stacey
a resident of Amberwood/Wood Meadows
on Sep 30, 2009 at 2:27 pm

Stacey is a registered user.

Tom wrote: "With anonymity, one does not need to be factual."

Witness every day the fabrications made in the political arena while using real names.

I think that what you're trying to solve by arguing against anonymity is not actually caused by the condition of being anonymous. Was Publius any less factual or civil because of anonymity?

I think older people do not truly understand the impact of the Internet on young people's lives. If you do something stupid, especially while using your real name, in a time of youth, that follows you throughout your whole life now because there's a search-able giant database of it. Perhaps that young person has taken responsibility for that past act, but now there's no chance of redemption.

Moreover, Parent of Two really put it out there. No one has control much anymore over who their audience will be. Nor do you have control over someone imitating you.


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