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People who go out of their way to be nasty

Original post made by J, Another Pleasanton neighborhood, on Aug 4, 2009

I think all of us either have one of these individuals in the workplace with us, or have at some point in the past...You know, the guy/gal who seems to sense you are in a good mood and does their best to squash it and walk away leaving you feel crummy.

I have a "co-worker" who seems to take joy in not only squshing my good moods, but also in making the people who work below him absolutely cringe at the thought of having to deal with him (which seems nonproductive in my book) Isn't it self-defeating to supervise peole who you need to interact with, and alienate them to the point where they avoid you? What management training do they teach you THAT technique at?

Anybody want to share their tales of woe so I know I'm not alone in dealing with this guy??

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Posted by It's true
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Aug 4, 2009 at 3:16 pm

J,

You are not alone in your experience. There are some people that are just angry and they stop at nothing to hurt other people.

This isn't a work scenario, but check out this thread from another post Web Link up from the bottom about 10-12 comments and you'll see what one woman had to contend with for giving her situation as an example).

People will stop at nothing to hurt others - it is sick that it makes them feel better about themselves.

Hang in there.


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Posted by Stacey
a resident of Amberwood/Wood Meadows
on Aug 4, 2009 at 3:26 pm

Stacey is a registered user.

Does your "co-worker" have a bad home situation? I had a boss who yelled at everyone and was really overbearing and his manager didn't seem to care. Later it turned out he was going through a divorce and he made every one feel horrible, like he couldn't keep work and home separate. He couldn't handle the work pressures and the home pressures. He finally quit, but that was after several other people left the company because of him (and I was next!).

Sounds like you have an emotional vampire in your midst. Web Link


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Posted by Cholo
a resident of Livermore
on Aug 4, 2009 at 3:39 pm

Tape him and put it on Utube.

If he has email, put his address in a chat room so the gets lots of mail.

Or, it's easy to jam somebody's email so it has problems.


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Posted by Cholo
a resident of Livermore
on Aug 4, 2009 at 4:08 pm

Web Link

THIS SHORT MUSICAL SKIT WILL EXPLAIN WHY SOME PEOPLE ARE NASTY!







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Posted by ????
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Aug 4, 2009 at 4:36 pm

What explains your disorder, Cholo?


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Posted by Another Gatetree Resident
a resident of Pleasanton Valley
on Aug 4, 2009 at 4:46 pm

Seems to me this co-worker is going beyond nasty. If they are actually " making the people who work below him absolutely cringe at the thought of having to deal with him," I would contact HR and file a "Hostile Work Environment" claim against this individual.

At the very least, it may cause them to know people are getting tired of their management style. If you're lucky, this individual will actually be terminated.


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Posted by J
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Aug 5, 2009 at 3:34 pm

Thanks to all for the feedback.

Today I watched this "gentleman" speak to, or it might be better described as speak AT, the young lady with the misfortune of reporting to him, almost reducing her to tears. I spoke to her about 20 mins later, and she was still so upset her hands were shaking and she atually swore about him under her breath. As the newest person here,I do not know how it would be received if I were to intervene on her behalf, and I am at a loss as to how to offer her support without sounding as though I am bad-mouthing him. My first instinct is to speak to him, and suggest he consider a communication class, but I get the feeling it goes much deeper then what I witnessed, and a class might be akin to putting an eyedropper of water onto a fire


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Posted by Another Gatetree Resident
a resident of Pleasanton Valley
on Aug 5, 2009 at 3:47 pm

The concerns you have are exactly why you should take this to HR. If HR manages this as a "Hostile Work Environment" situation, you are free from retaliation. If there is retaliation, that will surely see this "gentleman" G O N E.


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