Posted by Beth, a resident of the Foothill Place neighborhood, on Dec 12, 2008 at 9:32 am
I'm sure their hearts are in the right place, but I've never understood making blankets for NICU babies. Why not make blankets for underprivileged babies? NICU babies aren't charity cases. And for the record, yes, I had a NICU baby and politely declined the blanket. My baby had boxes of blankets knit for him by people who actually knew him. He didn't need the charity of people who felt sorry for him.
Posted by Bubba, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Dec 12, 2008 at 10:52 am
I have also had an NICU baby and I really appreciated the support from the public when it came to knitted caps and blankets. It was nice to know and feel the kindness through the work of volunteers and donations from the public.
Also, after spending five months in NICU with my baby, I can say that I noticed that not all babies in a NICU have the family support that is so important for them and yes some are charity cases.
Posted by Beth, a resident of the Foothill Place neighborhood, on Dec 12, 2008 at 2:15 pm
Look I was a recipient of this effort once and all I'm saying is that being in the NICU is hard enough without being made to feel like a charity case as well. There are plenty of babies, both premature and fullterm, who could use a blanket.
Let's put it this way, who among us, after giving birth to any baby, wants someone to come up to you and say, "Poor thing. I felt so sorry for you and your poor baby that I made you a blanket."
I know that these people's hearts are in the right place. I'm not disputing that. I'm just saying that if you're really concerned about babies who are cold, or whatever, give your blankets to a shelter.
Posted by Corie, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Dec 12, 2008 at 2:29 pm
I did not see one comment in the article saying that they were giving blankets to babies in the NICU because they were "cold."
Rather, it appears to be an attempt to comfort those who are going through a terrible situation and the blankets are just one way to let the babies and their families know that there are people out there who care and would like to offer the blankets, perhaps, for emotional support.
Posted by Beth, a resident of the Foothill Place neighborhood, on Dec 12, 2008 at 4:42 pm
Anna, thank you for understanding what I am trying to say.
Don't these organizations want to know what NICU parents think of the blankets? I can promise you I'm not alone. And I can't understand why a discussion of the potential emotional downside of these blankets is undesirable.
For me, our months in the NICU were hard enough without being given a blanket, hat and booties and realizing that people I didn't know were pitying my family. And really, since NICU babies as a group don't necessarily need blankets, that's really the backbone emotion behind the effort. Pity.
There are many worthwhile places to put this effort. Underprivileged babies, whether fullterm or premature. Babies left at Safe Haven Shelters. Babies placed in foster homes. Babies who NEED blankets.
Posted by Jim, a resident of the Castlewood neighborhood, on Dec 12, 2008 at 6:11 pm
It seems like the intent of these kind people is being projected. How about their feelings? Imagine taking the initiative to do something kind and being rejected. I respect your feelings Beth, but no need to hurt the feelings of nice people. People have soft spots for all kinds of things -- I think it is admirable that they give their time for others. Please consider their intent. A simple "no thanks" would have been nice.
Posted by PTown Mom, a resident of the Pleasanton Valley neighborhood, on Dec 13, 2008 at 12:58 am
My quilt guild makes these blankets too. We understand that they are placed over the little unit the baby is kept in (sorry I don't know the name) and it's used more to desterilize the medical/technical atmosphere and make it more homey and warm feeling for the tiny angel and their stresed out families.