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FRUSTRATED MOM IN HUD HOUSING

Original post made by Connie Whitson on Aug 28, 2013

My daughter is 18. She and boyfriend 21 were caught in a sting set-up to buy alcohol. The Police followed them to Kottinger Place and then announced themselves. When both of them ran and were arrested. They found drugs on her also.
She was released 7days ago and CAN'T RETURN HOME OR HUSBAND WILL BE TERMINATED!!! LIVE ON GROUNDS MAINTENANCE.
She learned her lesson and was scared straight!!! Jail did it. She has no place to go and is now living on the streets. The Shelters are Full. SHE FEELS LIKE SHE'S BEING PUNISHED AGAIN!

Not trying to excuse her actions by no means. However find it ridiculous that CITY OF PLEASANTON -- ZERO TOLERANCE DRUGS -- LEAVES A TEENAGER/ADULT HOMELESS.
LEAVING PARENTS WORRIED SICK ABOUT HER AND WHAT COULD HAPPEN TO A YOUNG PRETTY GIRL...HELP!!!

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Posted by Kathleen Ruegsegger, a resident of Vintage Hills Elementary School
on Aug 28, 2013 at 3:43 pm

Kathleen Ruegsegger is a registered user.

Connie, here is a site that could provide resources: Web Link


Posted by no tolerance either, a resident of Foothill Farms
on Aug 28, 2013 at 7:23 pm

You apparently raised a kid to think and act like a criminal. She had drugs in her possession, she tried to buy alcohol as a minor, she ran when confronted by the police and you say she learned her lesson? Right. Give her a break, at the taxpayer's expense of course, and she will be right back there doing it again. Suck it up and get straight, loser.


Posted by no tolerance either, a resident of Foothill Farms
on Aug 28, 2013 at 7:37 pm

And BTW -- when you live in HUD housing you are already being supported by the taxpayers. That support does not come without strings. Not being criminals, or harboring them, is one of those strings. When you expect someone else to pay your way you really do need to think about keeping yourself on the right side of the law.


Posted by liberalism is a duh-sease, a resident of Birdland
on Aug 28, 2013 at 8:21 pm

Probably the best thing you could do to get her off the street is to turn to strangers on an anonymous forum. If that doesn't pan out, then by no means should you, as a loving, responsible parent, take her back in. She's no doubt much better off being homeless, don't you think?

Libertarianism: I'm okay, you're not my problem!


Posted by Molly, a resident of Mohr Park
on Aug 28, 2013 at 10:33 pm

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Posted by Taxpayer, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Aug 28, 2013 at 11:00 pm

I'm pretty much...my money?,,,my rules!!! As a fiscal conservative, I'm very much for free condoms everywhere. Paying for kids without proper 'parenting' usually turns out bad, for the kids and taxpayers. Parenting matters, we're now into about the third generation of kids having kids at taxpayer expense, loaded with freebies, but it still goes bad. I'd rather spend my few coins on my kids college than...than other kids having kids they don't want to parent. I work hard for my money. I don't think I get my money's worth on this 'housing' program.


Posted by Don, a resident of Downtown
on Aug 28, 2013 at 11:13 pm

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Posted by Sam, a resident of Oak Hill
on Aug 29, 2013 at 8:36 am

Perhaps moving to a community with a less efficient police force and where your daughter is less likely to be caught for alcohol and drugs would be a good idea.


Posted by Also a Parent, a resident of Livermore
on Aug 29, 2013 at 9:35 am

Dear Frustrated,
I am a little confused, first you mention your daughter being 18 and her boyfriend as 21, then you refer to the situation as her being unable to return to her home or her husband will be terminated. Which is it? Boyfriend, husband or does she have both a husband and a boyfriend on the side?
The second confusing thing I wonder is the obvious to me...why can't she come stay with you? Parenting doesn't end as soon as they turn 18. You also said she learned her lesson so she should not have any trouble following your house rules of no alcohol or drugs if those apply in your home.
Why is it up to the local community of Pleasanton to provide more housing for her? She has already been living in HUD housing until now and messed that up! I'm awfully tired of everyone believing they are entitled to a free ride even when they ignore basic rules of no drugs or alcohol...even if you are young and pretty.


Posted by Kathleen Ruegsegger, a resident of Vintage Hills Elementary School
on Aug 29, 2013 at 9:59 am

Kathleen Ruegsegger is a registered user.

Also a Parent, It is a garbled message, but what I took away from it is that the daughter can't come home to mom or the mom's husband will be terminated (the mom lives in the HUD housing?).

In general, it's easy to suspect lousy parenting; it's easy to tell the family to figure this out on their own. But not every teenager makes the best decisions, regardless of family. Most parents of teens know there are bigger influences (friends, boyfriends, peer pressure). I would hope none of us would want to see any child on the streets. If help isn't found now, the taxpayers could end up paying for a lot more. This is only to suggest the situation be looked at with an open heart.

It's also entirely possible this is fictional just to prompt reactions.


Posted by Divine, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Aug 29, 2013 at 10:19 am

For those who so desperately want to be of help to others, rather than showing your gullibility for phony messages on this site, perhaps you might consider volunteering at Red Cross or some other helping agency.


Posted by Sam, a resident of Oak Hill
on Aug 29, 2013 at 11:53 am

I'm not assuming that the message is phony. I'm not assuming that it's genuine, either.


Posted by Smiley Face, a resident of Castlewood
on Aug 29, 2013 at 2:51 pm

It's time she takes responsibilities for here crime. The harsher the punishment the better if you ask me.


Posted by Harmon, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Aug 29, 2013 at 2:54 pm

Lots of people with lots of time on their hands. Wow!


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