Posted by concerned, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Oct 19, 2008 at 1:56 pm
People need to be extra careful when driving around parks. My son plays a sport at the Sports Park, and many times kids run in front of my car. I am extra careful so as to avoid having an accident or running someone over. Please, be more careful when driving in areas, like parks, where kids will be around - even if you think you have the right of way, etc, be more careful, these are kids - and you, as the driver, have the obligation to make sure you do not run someone over.
Posted by aa, a resident of the Highland Oaks neighborhood, on Oct 19, 2008 at 4:53 pm
People need to keep an eye on their kids. Especially when there is an event going on or when in high traffic areas. It goes both ways. This happened across the street from my home. I watched everything and this was a bad thing for everyone involved.
Posted by Concerned resident, a resident of the Bonde Ranch neighborhood, on Oct 20, 2008 at 7:42 am
Accidents happen but can be avoided, unfortunately not all the time. Yes all parties are responsible to some extent but bottom line is people need to stop and take everyday slowly.. enjoy your surroundings.. believe me you will realize how lucky you are and what a safe place pleasanton is.
Posted by anon, a resident of the Mohr Park neighborhood, on Oct 20, 2008 at 3:33 pm
The mom was "standing nearby" ??? WTF??? Her 3 year old was able to dart into a busy street and mommy was standing nearby -- doing what? She should have been holding her daughter's hand! If they gave an intelligence test before someone could have a child this world would have a lot less needlessly injured kids.
Posted by Mom_of_3, a resident of the Mohr Park neighborhood, on Oct 20, 2008 at 4:12 pm
Anon, I'll assume you don't have any children. Otherwise you wouldn't judge another parent (without being there to see what happened.) Of course she could have done something to prevent it. Isn't that always the case after an accident? Does that mean a Mom can prevent a 3 year old from making all sudden jumps or movement?
Hind sight is 20/20 and it shouldn't make you feel like a better person to criticize how someone else could have avoided a tragic accident. Just pray for that little girl, and keep your offending opinions to yourself.
Posted by anon, a resident of the Mohr Park neighborhood, on Oct 20, 2008 at 4:55 pm
I happen to have 3 kids and not once, ever, for any reason, has any of them been allowed to be out of my sight or grasp in a situation like that. If my opinions offend you then look to yourself to see if you are one who might not have been allowed to have children. Mine are not a burden to society or in danger of serious injury due to my failure to act like a responsible adult. Nor do I make excuses for what shortcomings I do have.
Posted by ConcernedMom&Driver, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Oct 20, 2008 at 7:26 pm
I think everyone is correct: Drivers should slow down and be extra cautious around places like parks AND parents should be extra mindful of their children around streets, etc.
What bothers me is when I hear that a parent sues the driver. If a child suddenly darts out into traffic there is nothing a driver can do. I don't think a driver should ever be held accountable when only super human reflexes would have prevented an accident. A teenager flew right in front of us recently - yes, in the crosswalk, but out of nowhere! We were already accelerating forward. It's only luck that we didn't collide with her.
Posted by Mom_of_3, a resident of the Mohr Park neighborhood, on Oct 20, 2008 at 9:17 pm
Anon--So instead of saying that you've been fortunate as a parent to avoid any accidents, you want to ridicule a parent that had a momentary lack of focus (with tragic consequences.) As a parent, I do the best I can to protect my children. There are unexpected dangers all over this world. I talk to my kids and explain to them what can happen. I stay close and alert and hope they do the same. But I also wouldn't put it past them to chase a ball or piece of paper without regaurd or an unseen car. That poor girl was three years old. You weren't there and it's not your place to judge another parent. I would never stand on a pedestal and preach "I happen to have 3 kids and not once, ever, for any reason, has any of them been allowed to be out of my sight or grasp..." You sound ridiculous.
I hear about an accident involving the child and I think poor little girl, lets pray. You read about it and want to say "WTF?" and pick apart a parent at the worst possible time. Have some compassion for a fellow parent and be humble. Accidents happen and all we can do is the best we can. Be careful of Karma...
Posted by Been there, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Oct 21, 2008 at 10:33 am
I have two children, and I remember once, when camping, our toddler suddenly ran away from me, and even though I ran after her right away (I was 7 months pregnant at the time so I could not move as fast as usual), she ran in front of a car (we both did, she was just being a toddler, and I was trying to get her). Luckily for us, the driver stopped and no one got hurt. Yes, after that I kept my child in a "backpack" at all times, but I am very greatful to that driver for noticing us and acting quickly.
I am always extra careful when driving around areas where kids will be present because I know that no matter what we all say, there will always be a toddler, child or teen who might come out of nowhere. I would not want to accidentally hit that someone just because I think they or their parents should be more careful.
Posted by resident, a resident of the Highland Oaks neighborhood, on Oct 21, 2008 at 10:54 am
Regarding lawsuits, how long do you think it will be before the mom sues that poor driver who was going 5-10 miles per hour? He did nothing wrong and was being more than just cautious. But Sharon Kim did not watch her daughter and might now be looking for someone to blame. I agree with "concerned mom & driver" that the real crime here is going to be if the mother tries to blame the driver and the lawyers get into it.
Posted by ConcernedMom&Driver, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Oct 21, 2008 at 3:47 pm
I'd like to add that in the case of a fatality, what good is the lawsuit? It doesn't bring the person back. We had a tragedy in our community when a 4th or 5th grader was killed. I feel nothing but sorrow for the family, but I heard they sued the driver. I had heard that the child rode into the street from a driveway where the driver, "going slightly above the speed limit" collided with him. IF it's true that the child suddenly rode into the street and IF it's true that the driver was not really speeding or under the influence, how is it fair that he be sued? He's likely forever traumatized as it is - likely for something that was the child's fault. He may be more than traumatized, he may be financially ruined too. The sad thing is that a child made a error in judgment (we all do) and it cost him his life.
Posted by Jane, a resident of the Highland Oaks neighborhood, on Oct 21, 2008 at 11:18 pm
I see that the dateline on the article says that it was updated on Tuesday 10/21 4:58pm, but the text of the article is identical to the previously posted article from Saturday 9:49pm. Odd.
But I am happy to read the comment/update from the post previous to this one that the girl was released from Children's Hospital and had only scratches and bruises - thank goodness, as the situation could have been much, much worse. As the Concerned Dad states, hopefully we can all learn from this, many lessons: drive very slowly around parks, don't step out into traffic and hope that cars will stop (ADULTS, this means you with your lawn chairs in hand, talking on the cell phones), hold your kids' hands, and especially in the half hour before sundown (this is called "dusk"), please turn your headlights on -- it's the LAW! I know this accident occurred mid-afternoon, but with the early sunsets, this is also crucial.
Posted by Could happen to anyone, a resident of another community, on Oct 22, 2008 at 2:25 pm
It's great to see some people with compassion, but to the other self-righteous "it would never happen to me" folks, why would you rip on a parent who has had such a traumatic experience? You don't know the circumstances of how and why the child ran off. Children do that. It's a lesson everyone (driver, parent, child) should learn from at the expense of this family.
Posted by average parent, a resident of the Las Positas neighborhood, on Oct 22, 2008 at 9:37 pm
i concur with mom of 3. Anon - you sound ridiculous!!!- Totally badgering and judging a family who is going through a terrible hardship. Just the fact that you would use those three letters in a comment while being a parent yourself is so disturbing. Who are you to put down another mother especially when you don't know the circumstances of the situation - Does this make you feel like a better person? The only way that I could somehow understand how you could make those cruel statements is to assume that you are a very insecure person looking to make yourself feel good about yourself. And who are you to say who does and who doesn't have the right to have children?? Do you really think that you - being such a perfect parent yourself - can protect them from any accidents or danger in this world?
Posted by Lucy, a resident of the Hacienda Gardens neighborhood, on Oct 23, 2008 at 12:04 am
There is not a parent alive who hasn't made a mistake that could have caused their child injury or death and it's because of luck that they're okay. Seriously. All of us are human and humans make stupid mistakes. And when you're taking care of children, there isn't a magical moratorium on stupid mistakes. Your child is lucky to be alive because we all make stupid mistakes.
Posted by A friend, a resident of another community, on Oct 23, 2008 at 10:17 am
I happen to know this mom very well, and she should not be blamed. Instead, we should support her during through this traumatic experience. Every time someone says something either positive or negative, she has to re-live the experience all over again. Don't you think she feels bad enough? When something like this happens in a community, we should all support each other, not rip eachother apart! God bless her family!
Posted by Russell, a resident of the Vineyard Hills neighborhood, on Oct 24, 2008 at 12:13 pm
Speed bumps can also help in these cases and I think Pleasanton could use a lot more of them. Studies have shown that speed bumps slow traffic down and reduce injuries and fatalities. Around parks and parking lots are good places for speed bumps.
Posted by Ally, a resident of the Another Pleasanton neighborhood neighborhood, on Oct 24, 2008 at 12:44 pm
Were you there to see what happened? How can you say it was totally the mother's fault? There was probably a little bit of negligence, but are you so perfect? Have some compassion, thank God the little girl is still alive!
Posted by Julie, a resident of the Vintage Hills Elementary School neighborhood, on Oct 24, 2008 at 6:42 pm
Wow, I debate on another forum here and that's the second (& third) time I've read the word "moron" here at the PW. Isn't calling someone a "moron" judgmental? I've never posted at a forum where such name calling was so common. I'm glad the little girl is okay!
Posted by Dennis Miller, a resident of the Highland Oaks neighborhood, on Oct 27, 2008 at 4:58 pm
I live in the area where this horrible accident took place. What's been going on through all of our minds in the area is, that this will not be the last time something like this happens. Everytime we drive by the park, we are always keeping an eye on the countless number of little kids running towards the street without the parents close at hand. It is imperative we as drivers are very aware of the chance of a child running, but it is even more important that parents take a great role of responsibility to watch their kids near the street. With all the cars parked close together at the park, it makes it even tougher to see little kids darting out. Until the parents start paying more attention, we all will hold our breath each and every time we drive by the park.
Posted by Jason, a resident of the Country Fair neighborhood, on Oct 27, 2008 at 5:14 pm
I think there is a Traffic committee that meets monthly and I hope they will study how to make Muirwood more safe. I like the speed bumps that I believe are on Crellin or one of the streets in Vintage Hills.