Town Square

Post a New Topic

Stay at Home Dads

Original post made by Mario, Downtown, on Sep 10, 2008

Are Stay at Home Dad's accepted in our society? I have encountered many that are underachievers, boring/bored and generally have anger issues. Unlike stay at home Mothers, they do not have outside interests and appear to resent the insubordination to their spouses. Anyone else have experience with this type of person?

Comments (15)

 +   Like this comment
Posted by Ptown Mom
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 10, 2008 at 2:10 pm

My sister is married to one! While we all supported her shifting to full-time work with her great employer after his employer left town (there was still one child at home full-time), it has turned into everyone's nightmare.

He did not interact with the child that was home. He refused to help the children with piano practice and homework. Mom still had to be the Room Mother, grocery shop, meal plan, and hire a housekeeper because he wouldn't do anything.

5 years later, both kids are in school fulltime and he still doesn't do anything but yak on the phone with his buddies. He has no interest in contributing to the home in any way (chores, work, etc). He won't make a move unless Mom is there to help.

On the other hand, years ago my SIL's spouse stayed home for several years with their 2 little ones and did an amazing job. As the stay-at-home parent, he enriched the children's lives, took care of the home issues, and did meal planning. He wasn't afraid to deal with the kids without his wife's help.

I know it can be done, but our family splits one win, one loss.


 +   Like this comment
Posted by Mary Jo
a resident of Ruby Hill
on Sep 10, 2008 at 2:43 pm

I have watched our "stay at home dad" neighbor get fatter an fatter as his wife works longer and longer hours. The kids roam the neighborhood and Dad could care less where they are. This guy has a housekeeper, gardner and two kids in school all day! He has no friends and complains that he is stressed. It's my opinion that men are meant to be in the work-world unless they have done something on their own to warrant their retirement. It's just not good for a man's self esteem. This is just my observation with one neighbor. An interesting topic.


 +   Like this comment
Posted by Cholo
a resident of Livermore
on Sep 10, 2008 at 2:47 pm

Plutonians, Maria (aka Mario) is a sadist who delights in baiting posters. He likes to engage in power plays with other males, especially stay at home dads and makes a mockery of who they are if they express a a point of view that deep down frightens him. If you respond, he believes that he has sucker punched you, refers to you as "a big fish" and then attacks your relationship with your wife with derisive references. Maria (aka Mario) is one sick puppy!

A cheerleader for male child molesters, he expresses disbelief that Henry is guilty and he is quick to get dirty surly when he is intimidated by diverse opinion.

Maria (aka Mario) you are one importunate romantic oaf with unmanageable rage, and a tendency to create splits. In other words, you are one sick puppy!


 +   Like this comment
Posted by Stacey
a resident of Amberwood/Wood Meadows
on Sep 10, 2008 at 3:14 pm

If you haven't been following the Castlewood molestation threads, you wouldn't know that Mario started this topic as a means to harass poster "stayathomedad".


 +   Like this comment
Posted by MARY JO
a resident of Livermore
on Sep 10, 2008 at 3:21 pm

SHUCKS...I JUST NOTICED THAT MARIO HAS LOTS OF POSTS ABOUT HENRY. HE SUPPORTS CHILD MOLESTERS. HE MUST BE CRAZY.

BYE BYE MARIO....COO COO THING!


 +   Like this comment
Posted by Mario
a resident of Downtown
on Sep 10, 2008 at 3:22 pm

Got Henry?


 +   Like this comment
Posted by Cholo
a resident of Livermore
on Sep 10, 2008 at 3:22 pm

Your acting out behavior is DIAGNOSTIC! tee hee hee, tee hee hee...


 +   Like this comment
Posted by Cholo
a resident of Livermore
on Sep 10, 2008 at 3:51 pm

Maria...I've just a guy named Maria
Maria Maria Maria

Where are you hiding! tee hee hee, tee hee hee...

Now, get a whiff of this and FLUSH...hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

B U S T E D WHAT DOES IT SPELL.....maria!!!


 +   Like this comment
Posted by Ptown Mom
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 10, 2008 at 3:54 pm

I've been lying, I just don't agree with what everybody is saying about Henry so I thought that it would be fun to trash stayathomedaed...

I apologize.


 +   Like this comment
Posted by maria
a resident of Birdland
on Sep 10, 2008 at 4:04 pm

mario...my other half...put up you dukes, put up your dukes.....


hahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa


 +   Like this comment
Posted by Cholo
a resident of Livermore
on Sep 10, 2008 at 4:33 pm

wanna play pee a boo? Where are you my little chickadee?

yoo hoo, where do you born?


 +   Like this comment
Posted by Ptown Mom
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 10, 2008 at 7:54 pm

Wow! I had no idea that my initial posting was interesting enough to warrant a copycat.

The real Ptown Mom


 +   Like this comment
Posted by Stacey
a resident of Amberwood/Wood Meadows
on Sep 10, 2008 at 8:02 pm

I wonder if Embarcadero Publishing's other news sites (i.e. Palo Alto Online) have as much a problem with anonymous copycat writers as this site has.


 +   Like this comment
Posted by Cholo
a resident of Livermore
on Sep 10, 2008 at 8:23 pm

Many of the posts that are signed Cholo are not mine.

There is a pattern to splitting off people who disagree by making them into bad objects.


 +   Like this comment
Posted by Gina Channell-Allen
president of the Pleasanton Weekly
on Sep 11, 2008 at 12:26 pm

Gina Channell-Allen is a registered user.

This forum has become pointless. Therefore, it is being closed.


Sorry, but further commenting on this topic has been closed.

Martin Litton, force of nature. An appreciation.
By Tom Cushing | 2 comments | 1,004 views

What to do with your buckets of water
By Tim Hunt | 2 comments | 663 views

Chanukah & The Bill of Rights
By Roz Rogoff | 0 comments | 467 views

How Many Colleges Should I Apply To?
By Elizabeth LaScala | 2 comments | 206 views