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Child Died in Vain

Original post made by Karen on May 19, 2009

I read today about a young girl found buried in her father's backyard in Ceres. Probably murdered by dad. The dad had a private lawyer, the mother had a court-appointed lawyer. The dad had been arrested for domestic violence, bank fraud and drunk driving. The mother was depressed. The dad got custody. In a country where the law made sense, an arrest for domestic violence should mean that you don't get custody of your children. How many mothers in Pleasanton are depressed or on anti-depressants? A lot. In a country where the law makes sense, a parent should not be denied custody of their child due to depression unless they are incapacitated. The dead child's court-appointed lawyer wrote a report to the judge that the father was abusing the children and not sending them to school. Nothing happened and now the girl is dead. It's really disgusting to read articles about this, because the tone is "What is a judge to do these days? It's really tough on them, the decisions they have to make are difficult." Really? This man was clearly unfit to be a father, he was OBVIOUSLY abusive, he was a drunk, a wife-beater and a felon. This child died in vain. You just have to read the articles about her death to know that, because the attitude is "What are you gonna do? it's just too bad."
We shouldn't even have judges, many are morons. There should be software. You punch in "drunk-driving, domestic violence, bank fraud" and you get back "no custody". It should be that simple. This girl would be alive if it were.

Comments (13)

Posted by mary, a resident of Del Prado
on May 19, 2009 at 11:48 pm

Youre right, Karen. One (judges, lawyers, etc.) takes the written law and adds personal and emotional interpretation which completely interrupts the intention of the law. I like your analogy of using software. It's simplistic and more accurate in its application. That's what law is supposed to be about. Especially when it involves life and death.

Thanks for your thoughts.




Posted by Get out of the wagon, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 20, 2009 at 12:16 am

Karen you are indeed correct. It should be that simple. That is why justice should be BLIND. A judge is there to look at the facts, period.

This is exactly why I am concerned about Obama's pick for the Supreme Court. He (Obama) is apparently wanting someone who has empathy for others. What??? The law is the law. Just apply it - don't have empathy. It is like all of these judges who let these sickos off lightly after raping a child. It makes me wonder if the jugde is themselves into child abuse for going so lightly on a criminal.

I am so concerned about how we treat the smallest in our country. It is abhorant.

Thank you, Karen, for your insight into this horrid situation and sharing this story. I will be praying for the poor mother.


Posted by AVHS Dad, a resident of Stoneridge Park
on May 20, 2009 at 2:26 pm

AVHS Dad is a registered user.

Link please?

Also, how did we get from a dead kid in Ceres to Obama? Geeze!!!


Posted by Get out of the wagon, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 20, 2009 at 2:30 pm

AVHS Dad,

After reading all your previous posts, I know logic is difficult for you. But just like I tell my kids with any comprehension questions, read it again and again and work it through. You CAN do it!


Posted by Cholo, a resident of Livermore
on May 20, 2009 at 4:34 pm

How does anyone come to believe that it is not a good deed to ask questions?

To answer elevates the questioner.

Ta-ta.....



Posted by Computer Incompetent, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 20, 2009 at 10:43 pm

I would be happy to provide a link. Will you please give me instructions on how to do that?


Posted by Get out of the wagon, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 20, 2009 at 11:55 pm

Computer Incompetent (no you're not!)

You first go to the website page you want to share

You "copy" the weblink in the address bar (click on it once and it will highlight blue or black).

Right click your mouse and scroll to "copy" (make sure it stayed hightlighted).

Come back to this Weekly thread. Type your message as you like and then right click your mouse and scroll to paste the link where you want it.

It won't look pretty to you, but when you submit your post, it will appear as a "weblink".

Thanks for the link to the article in advance!!


Posted by AVHS Dad, a resident of Stoneridge Park
on May 21, 2009 at 3:55 pm

AVHS Dad is a registered user.

Get out of the wagon: Oh sure, logic, clear as partisan mud. I spent the last 8 years watching people link every negative occurance in the world to Bush. I guess it's Obama's turn now.


Posted by AVHS Dad, a resident of Stoneridge Park
on May 21, 2009 at 3:55 pm

AVHS Dad is a registered user.

Get out of the wagon: Good copy/paste instructions.


Posted by Once distraught Mom, a resident of Livermore
on May 22, 2009 at 11:42 am

I had a similar custody fight with my abusive ex which resulted in him in him winning partial custody of our children. I was warned by child protective services after he harmed my oldest child "just once" that if I didn't get him out of the home they could place them in foster care. He was able to convince a judge that he would have anger management classes and then won partial custody. He moved out to San Joaquin county where he would leave them alone in an apartment if they didn't want to go to school, they were teenagers by then and when I took him back to court they were given the choice as to who to live with and they chose him. So of course I became distraught, I was the bad mom who wanted them in school vs playing video games. The court system is really messed up and doesn't look out for who or what is in the best interest of the child. I am just thankful he didn't physically hurt or kill them like this other child. When you are poor or poorly represented then it doesn't seem to matter what the other person has done in the past to hurt others.
I can only imagine the pain this mother is going through knowing she tried everything to protect her child and no one would listen to her. Evil people like this father probably has no remorse, however someday he will have to face and pay the consequences for his actions either here on earth at a trial,in prison, or his day of judgment.


Posted by Holy Moly, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 22, 2009 at 12:19 pm

Web Link Did it work?


Posted by Karen Holy Moly Computer Incompetent, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 22, 2009 at 12:22 pm

Get out of the wagon----(what does that mean?)
Thank you, and thank you for defending me from my own insult.


Posted by Maureen, a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on May 22, 2009 at 4:06 pm

This is ridiculous. He takes anger management classes and then get the kids? Shouldn't there be some evidence-based research proving the efficacy of a treatment before innocent, defenseless children are allowed to be captives of an abusive parent? Our legal system is a joke.


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