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Reining in prom expenses

Original post made on Apr 17, 2014

If you've got teenagers, you already know how expensive high school can be.

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Posted by Nose Better
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Apr 17, 2014 at 8:55 am

Proms are now completely out of control - both the expense and what goes on. The idea of proms being a huge extravaganza in the City with limousine transportation and plenty of drugs, booze and sex is just nuts. Great way to get pregnant, contract STDs, get your brain fried, or get in trouble.


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Posted by mooseturd
a resident of Pleasanton Valley
on Apr 17, 2014 at 9:35 am

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Did anyone out there marry their prom date and live happily ever after? Probably Cholo.


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Posted by mooseturd
a resident of Pleasanton Valley
on Apr 17, 2014 at 9:38 am

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I have to add another thought. Long, long ago I saved money so I could go to the Prom. As the day grew close, I realized that I had a choice. I could spend the money on a nice handgun and lots of ammunition. I did that. I still have the gun.


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Posted by Pie, But Good
a resident of another community
on Apr 17, 2014 at 9:57 am

I bet your prospective prom date was grateful, too!


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Posted by Jack Mioff
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Apr 17, 2014 at 10:21 am

@ Mooseturd....awesome that you would compare a once in a lifetime experience like going to your prom with buying a gun. My guess is you bought the gun because you realized it was the only thing that would go to the prom with you.


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Posted by finished
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Apr 17, 2014 at 8:31 pm

Son rented tux; shared limo (a dad helped by getting a good deal - knew people). Son paid for the dinner.
Daughter tried outlets (too large), found something reasonable, found girls with whom to swap dresses. Need girls about the same size - very nice if you have friends at both high schools :) They don't want to wear the same dress twice. If dress seen at AVHS on one girl is worn by a different at Foothill, you can easily share. Yes, I've seen the same dress on girls at the same prom (even in the same color).
We gave out budgets for clothing and additional expenses to each. Any additional had to be earned by kid. However, we started with allowances so they could save up to buy the toy they wanted (K-3rd grade) and later a "clothing allowance" before school began so they were trained before prom.
It really helped when they went of to college - first few months were eye opening but after that, very much settled in (and wondering why friends were not.)


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Posted by Cholo
a resident of Livermore
on Apr 18, 2014 at 8:06 am

I never heard of the "prom" until I became an American. I guess the prom is here to stay?


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Posted by Bungwad
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Apr 18, 2014 at 9:23 am

[removed because it was offensive]


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Posted by Al P
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Apr 18, 2014 at 11:03 am

Or... Prom can be a great night, rewarding years of hard work in academics, sports, etc. It's a rite of passage for many students, something they've looked forward to for years. Think of what you as an adult would pay for a big night out. Bachelor or Bachelorette party comes to mind, minus the fancy dress, but that comes the next day.

The Princess Project provides full outfits for girls who can't afford anything - for free. Many schools have scholarships for the students who need free or reduced ticket prices. Limos are totally optional, as is a dinner out. Suits are fine for guys. Lots of ways to have a great time for less.

It's a shame people bash prom prices every year. But I guess that's part of the culture every spring, too.


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Posted by San Ramon Observer
a resident of San Ramon
on Apr 18, 2014 at 2:20 pm

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Cholo,

I received your message, but I can't remove the offensive post because this is not my article. I shall forward your concern to the Editor and Publisher to ask them to remove the offensive comment.

Roz


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Posted by Loved Our Proms
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Apr 18, 2014 at 4:28 pm

@ mooseturd who asked?


Did anyone out there marry their prom date and live happily ever after?


Answer:
Yes. She went to mine. I went to hers. Now, we are in our 40th year of marriage. And living MORE than Happily, thank you.


I hope all the Prom goers enjoy their time...You will remember it for a lifetime. Make it a good memory, and be safe.


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Posted by Mike
a resident of Highland Oaks
on Apr 18, 2014 at 4:35 pm

As long as the kid can rock the gown or tux, go for it. Looking at the picture on the top page, however, I think it might serve our youth better if we were to donate whatever money we might spend on their proms to more effective physical education and health programs.

Mike


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Posted by Cholo
a resident of Livermore
on Apr 18, 2014 at 5:09 pm

Thank you Roz.


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Posted by San Ramon Observer
a resident of San Ramon
on Apr 18, 2014 at 6:27 pm

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My mother saved my prom dress. The dresses in the photo are much more formal than my 55 year old dress.

Mother sent it to me 15 years ago when she sold our house in New Rochelle. Even if I had a prom to go to, there is no way I could fit into that dress again.

Is there anyone here over 50 (I'm over 70) who could still fit into your old prom clothes?

Roz



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Posted by Formerly Dan from BC
a resident of Bridle Creek
on Apr 18, 2014 at 11:05 pm

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Jack Mioff??

Hahaha, so juvenile!

Come on Pleasanton Weekly editors, up your game!

Sincerely,

Dan


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Posted by Jack Mioff
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Apr 21, 2014 at 5:44 am

@ Dan.....EXACTLY. Just as juvenile as all of these lame posts. My point.


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Posted by Allen.
a resident of Downtown
on Apr 21, 2014 at 7:17 am

I didn't go to my Graduation Dance because I didn't have a suit. They are called prom's now because they cost more.


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Posted by Cholo
a resident of Livermore
on Apr 21, 2014 at 2:48 pm

Lots of students don't have suits and they still attend and have a great time!


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